Confused.

[san1]

Hey guys this is my first post i was reading other posts and you guys(or girls) have really good advice so i thought i'd give this a try since i'm finding myself a bit confused and rarely ask for help.

I met this girl at work, i got her e-mail we talked a couple times and by that time i got her phone number(i had quit that job by then). We spoke on the phone, it was all smooth and i started giving her hints of my interest for her and she also flirts back.
She's really virtueous (my assumption), doesn't believe in sex before marriage, hates drinking and smoking. Which is a good thing since i admire her these things, though the second one could be issue, but i do enjoy the challenge.
First time we were supposed to meet(she quit from her job and my place, i just got a job at, was having a job fair, so i told her to meet me) she said she'd call, but she didn't so we didn't end up meeting. She called couple days later and we were talking and i acted like it nothing happened to which later she told me was "sorry" she didn't meet me and said "I was waiting for your call and i didn't go to college that day." meaning she had classes (I know she has classe on taht day) but she chose not to go because she waited for my call.
So i finally met her on halloween, we talked i read somewhere about being ****y funny, she had a expensive watch on and i bluntly said "is that plastic" it was given to her by her father.
I thought that'd b it, no more phone calls from her, but she called two weeks later, twice. i called back we(i) made another plan to meet, she said "maybe, if i go i'll give u a call" i said ok, and that was it. She didn't call, so i ended up going out with someone else. She called me at one in the morning, and said "i just finished my homework, and how come u didn't call me, i thought we were meeting today" *confused*
We spoke, and i was telling her about how used to listen to love songs, she assumed it was when i was in "love". so i asked her if she liked someone she said she did, and i asked "does he know" she said "if he doesn't, he's really slow" (i felt bit of a sting) either way, she goes on to tell me how that guy is so posessive (*nice!) and then asks me if i'm posessive, i give her a vague answer. At this point this sting grows, and she tells me she doesn't really hang out with any one else in school, and i become a bit goofy taking this ****y funny to a new level i say "so, ur a loner", i made couple of other jokes that were kind of harsh(atleast i think, pls tell me i'm wrong).
She said before we hung up that "u must be drunk, u seem to talk a lot today."
I thought about that, i called her a day later, and she was fine we spoke i had a pretty good rapport going, and she was all laughter reminiscing about her childhood. she asked me about friday(which was the day i went out with someone else instead of her, since she didn't call) i told her it was "alright" and then she hung up.
We had our last conversation last saturday, i called her three times since, she didn't pick up.

My question to my fellow DJ's is "did i screw up this one?" with the whole ****y funny thingy, and "do u think there was a possibility i was the guy she was referring to when she said she liked someone and again have i managed to mess taht up?"

It's one hell of a long post i appreciate u reading it and posting ur comments negaive or positive.

San1.

 

[flexion_]

Listen... if you are calling her she knows you are interested. You don't have to spell it out anymore than that for her. Also, you call her to set things up - period.

Start taking control if you want anything to happen.

 

[Last Man Standing]

hmmmm, hmmmmm, when she asked, "are you drunk?" this tells me your "****y/funny" was out of your natural character and she noticed!!! Quit trying to be cute and BE A MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Quit chit/chatting on the wire and get face time!!!!!!!!

She is a virgin??? Yes? If so, she is a woman of character!!!!! Worthy of my pursuit, but I don't know if she is worthy of yours!

 

[Docs]

My tip to you. Next time you get her in that kind of mood, set up and go for the kiss. That's the only true way to find out if she's attracted to you.

PS: She's obviously flirting with you, do what I said.

 

[san1]

appreciate ur comments, i was really hoping that 'cute' phase would be gone.

 

[Maximus Rex]

I'd suggest that you read 15 Lessons mPUA Pook. Pay close attention to Lessons 3, 5, and 8. Also go read the thread by me, entitled, "The 9 Signs of Little or No Interest."

Also don't talk to women you work with, the sitution can turn into a cluster eff. Your at work to build a career and earn money, not to holler at chicks. If you want this woman that bad, then I'd suggest you get another job.

 

[Snow Plowman]

You should've been escalating the time that you both met. You should've also kissed her that day, she doesn't know if you actually like her.

 

[san1]

There's been an update, she hadn't called me in about a week. i called 3 times. Today (Saturday) morning at 4:08 AM, text messaged me saying "My bro has my cell now. tty online"
that's kinda vague and even more confusing.

Maximus Rex, i read couple chapters and helped me a lot thank you.
Snow Plowman, i will keep that advice in mind.

 

[Bible_Belt]

For crying out loud, you have been talking on the phone way too much! The object of im/Internet is to get the phone number, and the object of calling is to set up the in-person date and get off the phone asap. She has girlfriends for chat buddies.

You need to get the in-person dates going. If she is so virtuous, then she probably has it in her head how much she thinks she will put out on the 1st date, 2nd date, etc. A lot of women won't fvck on the first date, which is fine with me, because I waste no time getting from the first phone call to the first date, and then quickly to the second.