Confused with what style I should do...

[Ragin_Asian]

Ok I'm still a beginner and finding my own ground in the word of DJing. I'm putting a lot of attention into myself (self-improvement etc) and not putting as much attention to girls as I used to.

The problem is that my approach on girls isn't as good and efficient as "doing my own thang" and attracting girls when I'm not on the "prowl". Lately there has been a sh*tload of girls checking me out and even opening me up. The last few girls I've been with are that the ones who showed the initial interest and I can pick it up there and they go crazy over me.

With the latter, I can do the whole smooth, suave DJ thing as natural as breathing. But with approaching and closing its very awkward and not as productive. I look like I'm on the prowl when I'm trying to sarge. I guess when I'm not looking I give off a very mysterious image that gets them hooked. After all this site is about being a DJ not a PUA.

Am I missing an important key here?? My approach probably needs a lot of work. I find it very hard to find a balance but a girl giving me her number is good enough for me to make the most out of it. If a girl voluntarily gives me her number then its all good but if I had to ask for a number then its the opposite.

Now back to the question...Should I work more on approaches and aggressiveness OR just keep doing my own "thang" and let the girls open me up first. I do get a lot of interests thrown at me when I'm not on the prowl.

 

[Julian]

I would say that if you see a girl you are attracted to you should embrace it and work from there.

If a girl opens you and you are attracted to her then go for it.

At the end of the day i say you should just do whatever the fvck you want and if theres b1tches around that you like then its all good.

 

[Ragin_Asian]

Ahhhh I think this is the good ol Murphy's Law at its best. When I'm out to meet girls I'm attracted to, there is usually nothing that happens. But when I'm not out to get girls then I usually get the O's.

Guess I'll have to work hard on my approaches and working from there. I can't put on the disinterested look all the time and i'll have to be aggressive at some point.

I have a friend who is like me. He is quiet with girls at the start and does not make any move but girls are flocking to him to get to know him. Even though he gets a lot of girls I dont think he can approach at all.

Any more help lads??

 

[California Love]

I understand what you are feeling. It obviously feels great having girls approach you. But you want to do the approaching. How are you ever gonna maximize your potential if you lie in wait and let the women DJ you? In order to get the best, to get what you want, you need to do the initiation. From personal experience, it's less hard in situations that directly place you with others, like workshops, classes, school, functions, and public centers. These you can easily find everywhere you go. Just practice without having a "goal-oriented" mentality. Approach to be sociable and to meet new people. In the process, you will inevitably meet worthy girls.