confused...seeking direction

[chrisjen17]

alright now, i am new, but i have been reading posts here for a while, and i dont remember anything about a case like mine.

I have known this girl since i was a junior in high school, we werent friends until we were both seniors....then after our freshman year of college, she moved...and i havent seen or talked to her in a year at least, probably more like one and a half. She moved back to my town this year. well, since then she has lost some wieght, and so have i...Now, i am really into her and i am wondering if she is into me. i mean, i call her...she calls me. i have asked her out about 3-4 times now, and she has really been busy(like no lie, she actually was) anywho, i asked her to tell me when she wouldnt be busy and she never gave me a straight answer, just BS like well, i have tests to study for and im going home this weekend...yadayadayada.
I mean, ive been to her house a few times, but weve never 'been out' Am i stuck as a 'friend' even though we didnt talk for sooo long?
PS...other guys have been asking her out also, and shes been turning them down also...but she still asks me to call her and talk to her when she takes her breaks at work.....
what do i do?

 

[that happy dude]

confused

Just me personally, i would give her a bit of space, maybe not return her calls for a while. Let her stew and giver her some time to miss you, you know. Make yourself unavailable for a week or so. Her IL might raise a bit then. See how you go.

 

[chrisjen17]

alright, i waited a good while and called this girl today...she told me that she had been thinking about me and wondering why i hadnt called...i told her that i had been busy and ****....but i told her that i been out dating these other girls...she got real pissed, hung up and i never called her back...
i guess she was interested, but now i am thinking she is flaky...
but still shes a HB8-9 and i want to hit it pretty damn bad...lol...
what are you guys thinkin about this ho?

 

[jakethasnake]

First of all, why do you call this girl a 'ho'? Has she done something lecherous, to the best of your knowledge?


NEVER talk shyt about a woman you want to get with. It's just bad karma at best, and at worst word can get around. You also seem to be playing unecessary games.


What people should never forget is that sometimes it is absolutely possible that SHE LIKES YOU BACK. In that case, you don't need any stupid mind-fvck games. Just a detatched, cool, relaxed attitude. Is it that hard for some people to understand this?

 

[chrisjen17]

im just saying that to refer to how she was acting....cause i mean i really like her, but after she went all immature and pouty on me there, i think she may be flaky.....
nothing lecherous to my knowledge, i am not sure she has ever had sex even....she talks down about whenever it comes up

 

[chrisjen17]

well now hear this....
i was on messenger, and she got on....she told me she was sorry and that she realizes that she had no reason to get upset....
so i tell her thats ok and that she can make it up to me by buying me lunch...i was kiddin, but she said sure.
i think i am in... and all it took was the last thing i would have chosen to do in the past...just give her space and go tune my skills with other girls....
i owe ya one guys