"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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defensiveend96

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hello everyone. I am just a little confused on how to get this girl from being just a girl I know to being my girlfriend. I have read the dj bible and understand it and I know how to act around girls how to be confident etc. but I am confused on how to take a girl form being a girl you know to being a girlfriend. I was thinking it would be something like this:
-you start talking to her
-keep talking to her when you see her around school and make her laugh
-flirt
-ask her out

I know this question may said a little stupid or strange but I really could use some help and this is the best place I know for advice with girls. thanks in advance
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I kinda have trouble with this **** too especially when the girl is in one of my classes and I have to see them everyday.
 

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Build some atraction and comfort if you havent already. Then get her number and set up a date after a few textes. cant tell mufh about dates tought.:) and be natural, be yourself and not some master pua.
 

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Youre probably going to do some mistakes first times, like Im doing and everybody does, but thats how you get good at this, really.
 

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I agree with you watawata. I feel a lot more confident about my chances with this girl and I am beginning to relax and just have fun with her. She is showing some signs of being attracted to me so I will go for a number close soon. Just gotta keep doing what I am doing right. :)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Watawata

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Dont stop escalating. After you get the number get the date etc.. Not like right at the first message, but work to get there without to much texting.
 

defensiveend96

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yeah that's what I am going to do. once I get the number I will talk to her for a bit and then ask for the date. btw she is in my math class and I need a good opener to start a conversation with her and build some more attraction.
 

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Just be yourself really. Say things that amuse you. Maybe check out nino-tk journal or jaedons, any journal with more than 10 pages really, to get examples.
If you havent done something like that in awhile youll probably be a bit nervous. Thats not a major problem and you can still get the number.
 

defensiveend96

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alright I will check out those journals. I have done stuff like this but I am just a little nervous because I really like this girl.
 

Watawata

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Your on the right track man. Create a journal also.

Youl get more feedback on what your doin and be able to keep your self more motivated, besides just traking your progress.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AlexLefty

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defensiveend96 said:
yeah that's what I am going to do. once I get the number I will talk to her for a bit and then ask for the date. btw she is in my math class and I need a good opener to start a conversation with her and build some more attraction My first question is, do you even know what attraction is? Do you actually know what causes attraction, what builds attraction, and how it works? If not, I'd take a step back and think about it, 'cause how can you attempt to do something you don't fully understand.
^^^
 

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I still have one problem though. whenever I have a chance to talk to the girl I like I always get nervous and don't talk to her. i really want to talk to her but i always freeze up and get nervous
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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defensiveend96 said:
I still have one problem though. whenever I have a chance to talk to the girl I like I always get nervous and don't talk to her. i really want to talk to her but i always freeze up and get nervous
ok well think of it this way, dont treat her like a guy/buddy but women are still humans. They aren't this person that has power over you. if you think they do you are clearly mistaken. Women like men that are confident and lead the way, instead of thinking along the lines of "I get to talk to her" think more along the lines of "she gets to talk to me". If you see her just start with some basic simple intro like "hi how are you feeling today?" and let the conversation flow naturally.
-also whats the worst that could happen think about it the absolute worst "OMG GET AWAY FROM ME YOU FREAK" right? that almost never happens the girl is at least usually polite.
Good luck :up:
 
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