"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hey everyone,
I'm new here as a member, i generally just lurk and learn as i go. But now i really have a problem of my own to try and get help with.

My girlfriend and me at the moment are in a confusing state. We basically had met once briefly and then got to know each other better over text, phone and msn. I was told by all my friends to avoid dating her because she lived so far away from me, but i ignored this.

We met up again in the city and everything went well-ish and i asked her out during the day and then we both went home. 2 weeks went past and we spoke a lot on the phone but had no time to meet to each other. that weekend we met up and it was average, the whole day seemed awkward as if i was supposed to kiss her but there wasn't any time or a place for it.

At first we seemed to have so much in common but we haven't had a proper conversation for about 3-4 days now and neither of us have been at all flirty with each other.

I can't see her for one week, and then she has exams and then she is going on holiday to asia. This means i would have seen my girlfriend 3 times in 2 months. I also feel i dont like her more than a friend and she doesnt like me more than a friend but im confused on what to do and don't particularly want to talk about it with her in case it goes the wrong way. As a friend shes an awesome person but i dont see much else in her...

I feel terrible about this because she spends a lot of time trying to see me and commonly buys me gifts.

Thanks if anyone reads this
Jake
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tell her that it wont work out, gf wise, until the circumstances allow you both to see each other in person more often. If she can't understand this, then she isn't a reasonable person and someone I would not date in the first place. You guys can still be penpals or whatever you guys where, :up:

You have no reason to just stay with her. Go out and get some more chicks. What she doesn't know wont hurt her.
 
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Yeah thats what i was actually thinking.. she doesn't really know anything about me or my friends beyond the internet.. To be honest I might just wait a bit. Until now i always thought that cheating was morally wrong, but i feel atm as if im not cheating as we are not even going out. She is my girlfriend, but i dont see us "going out" much. I have my party soon which she cant goto because "its too far away", i have heaps of girls that are good mates coming and i mean i feel im restricted by nothing if i don't hook up.
Is it wrong...
 
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OldSP said:
Yeah thats what i was actually thinking.. she doesn't really know anything about me or my friends beyond the internet.. To be honest I might just wait a bit. Until now i always thought that cheating was morally wrong, but i feel atm as if im not cheating as we are not even going out. She is my girlfriend, but i dont see us "going out" much. I have my party soon which she cant goto because "its too far away", i have heaps of girls that are good mates coming and i mean i feel im restricted by nothing if i don't hook up.
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I see absolutely NOTHING wrong in enjoying yourself. It isn't worth it over an Internet buddy.

The way I see it, you're not "cheating" your just "studying" by going out with other chicks on the side, practice, you know? But this is assuming your in a relationship, which I don't think you really are.

So just go out, be a cool guy, and have FUN.

Understand?
 
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