"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Confused not sure how to go about with this girl.

djweses89

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Ok well lets start off to say that im not a master Dj yet or anything but within past year or so i have been pretty good with women after reading articles on this site and so what. And im actually talkin to two girls at the moment that i will most likley end up being with atlease one of them soon, so this girl im getting ready to talk about isn't like gunna drive me crazy if its not gunna work.

I also apologize about the length of this thread, and any spelling or grammar errors I have, mainly because I just typed it fast and didn't worry too much about all of that.

But here goes. There is this girl named amanda, I saw her first time my senior year and shes effin hot. Well I was dating someone at the time but my friend josh was like Im gunna get the hook up with this girl, well few weeks later he did no problem with ease to just by sayin shes hot and being the normal guy he is. Well they broke up cus josh couldnt never hang out with her as much as he wanted which no one likes. Ok well me and her got to know each other as friends first not big ones just because she dated my best friend or w/e for 2 weeks. Well after they broke up she pretty much got herself another b/f in no time. But I keep trying talk to her throw game kind of worked but she was still never like all over me or anything or showing any signs of being into me that i could make a move or anything. So keep talking to her and so what me and her joked around a lot with each other i got her to call me once or twice when she was dating her b/f ( not my friend josh the new one after him ). But most of the talking happend through the internet which i know lame but thats was one of my problem I couldnt get her to hang out in person or anything. Well later on at like end of the school year we finally hung out just me and her one night that was just random because her b/f blew her off. but we didnt get to do a lot because her parents only let her stay out till 9 which i picked her up around 8 not knowning she could only stay out till 9. And i guess things went well but i didnt try to make any moves because wasnt a lot of time. Well after that i had troubles getting her to hang out anymore till like begging of the summer we was joking around some more and i was like ima come swimming at your house on thursday and she was like sure with a smiley face. Well thursday came around I called her and canceled told her my mom had the car which she didnt but i really didnt feel like going over there that day because i wanted to do soemthing with my friends.( and btw she still dates this guy when we hung out and all that). Well sense then i havn't been able to get her to hang out or anything shes busy all time or atlease acts like she is but she does do a lot of things with dance and stuff. But then I thought i was effed with her and we got on the convo about where i work and she was like ima come up there today or tomorrow and she did ( this was about 3 weeks ago ) then she went to canada for like a 3 week vacation and she just got back recently. Well I was talking to her asked her bout trip all things like that we got to joking around with each other like always, and somehow we got on the convo about bein shy she was like you dont need be so shy talk more and i was tryin play it off like shes too shy cus she was too when we first meet. And i haven't talked to her past 2 days or w/e but another thing when i make like lil jokes you should come over and give me a back massge or something ( no i haven't used that one just an example ) shes always like yea w/e or you wish or is like yea why not then goes NOT! cus of that stupid borate movie. but basicly when i get her a line to bite she never does just makes a joke about it herself or w/e.

but anyways would just like some advice on this girl before i get too deep into the hole because i knew another girl that was same way with me and i effed it up cus she confused me so bad. So if this is a lost cause let me know if theres still a chance let me know and things i should do or try. And like i said shes not like a huge deal but its always the harder ones to get that us guys want more atlease i know with me it is.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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So what you are saying is the following:

My best friend used to **** this girl I wanted to ****.
After he was done with her, and was cool with me ****ing her, I didn't.
Some other guy is with her.
I talk to her online alot and she came to visit me at my job once.
She called me shy.

....If you don't see anything wrong yet, then go out into the field, and the answer will come to you.
 

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how gunna play the field dude with a girl that wont hang out or anything, a girl thats ether playin real hard to get or just isnt interested. thats my issue here.
 

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Dj, you don't get it, let it go, if you KNOW this girl isn't interested, why do you still care about if she's playing hard to get or not?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

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man some ppl dont listen thats what im wonderin idk if shes intrested or not. and these forums have gotten like just sad, no one gives actuall advice anymore just a bunch off people yelling at each other or sayin stupid things to each other, so for anyone else that reads this and wants to give some good advice and not be an ******* about things and tell me what i might be doing right or wrong or things i need to do right ether with this girl or things i need to change about myself. not just hey do this youll be good that helps me none.
 

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Yo man, you are seriously attached to this girl, I don't think you understand though.

She just doesn't want you right now, she would have made it more than evident. If you really want to try (and most likely waste your time, but there are those rare times), then first off you need to distance yourself for a bit, work on becoming more confident (dont worry about looks, just look the best you can), more complete, and more rounded. Right now you are focusing on her way to much, and its gonna leak through to every aspect of you talking to her.

Again though man, you really should just leave her be and go for one of the other 2,999,999,999 women out there.
 

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i hear ya and im not too worried about her its just in a way im usin her in this thread and so what to kind of get some tips on things i should try kind of like an experiment girl but one that would be great if got with her.
 

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Own up to yourself, start being a man, and maybe you'd be treated like one.
 
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