"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Confused..need an explanation please.

Jet

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There's this girl that comes to my work now and then and buys something from me and I can tell she wants me to ask her out, but in chatting to her she mentions a boyfriend (no ring). Why in the world does she do that if she's hoping I will ask her out? Do girls think that's a smart thing to do?? It seems dumb to me.

Thanks for any insight into this.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Scars

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Perhaps you mistake her friendliness as her "wanting to ask you out". Perhaps she isn't interested at all.

Question though, how old is this girl?
 

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Nah, I'm positive she wants me to ask her out. She's 18 or 19.
 

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why r u positive? so many guys report "we had a great time", or "we had a great connection"... only to be friendzoned.

is your evaluation backed up? either way, ask her out. save some time.
 

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Let's just give you the benefit of the doubt here.

1. She's interested in you and probably getting tired of her boyfriend. She wants to hook up with you to see if you're better then him. Once it's confirmed, she will dump him and be official with you. This is commonly called branch swinging.

2. She's interested in hooking up with you but still want to stay with her boyfriend. Now you're just her boy toy, a temporary distraction from her real relationship.

I wouldn't bother with this type if you're easily emotionally attached or have much respect for relationships. For good quick fun and run, it's great.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ah, so she mentions the boyfriend so I know she's only down for a fling? (to begin with at least) It just seemed like a nonsense roadblock, but that kinda makes sense. Thanks.
 
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