"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Confused..need an explanation please.

Jet

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There's this girl that comes to my work now and then and buys something from me and I can tell she wants me to ask her out, but in chatting to her she mentions a boyfriend (no ring). Why in the world does she do that if she's hoping I will ask her out? Do girls think that's a smart thing to do?? It seems dumb to me.

Thanks for any insight into this.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Scars

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Perhaps you mistake her friendliness as her "wanting to ask you out". Perhaps she isn't interested at all.

Question though, how old is this girl?
 

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Nah, I'm positive she wants me to ask her out. She's 18 or 19.
 

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why r u positive? so many guys report "we had a great time", or "we had a great connection"... only to be friendzoned.

is your evaluation backed up? either way, ask her out. save some time.
 

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Let's just give you the benefit of the doubt here.

1. She's interested in you and probably getting tired of her boyfriend. She wants to hook up with you to see if you're better then him. Once it's confirmed, she will dump him and be official with you. This is commonly called branch swinging.

2. She's interested in hooking up with you but still want to stay with her boyfriend. Now you're just her boy toy, a temporary distraction from her real relationship.

I wouldn't bother with this type if you're easily emotionally attached or have much respect for relationships. For good quick fun and run, it's great.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Ah, so she mentions the boyfriend so I know she's only down for a fling? (to begin with at least) It just seemed like a nonsense roadblock, but that kinda makes sense. Thanks.
 
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