"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Confused need advice on specific scenario

AlphaNoob

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So this girl started liking me and wanted a relationship, but I wanted to still meet other chicks and party bc it's my last year in college. Later on I realize that I'm not about that life and would rather much prefer someone to have an intimate connection with and I realize how much of an @ss I am for not getting with this girl.
I think what happened was that I suppressed my emotions and rationalized them away, thinking that I would be better off going to parties and fvcking multiple girls.

So I've tried going out and meeting other girls and doing the college parties, but it does not feel as meaningful and genuine as with this girl and that it what I want. Also, I just don't have time for that as a premedical student and on my path to becoming a physician. It'd be nice to have someone to go to after studying all day.

How do I maintain emotional control while still showing her that I'm interested and would still want her to come back to this state?

She puts snapchat stories of saying how she is going to go out and I always seem to have an emotional response to it. It almost feels as if she is doing it on purpose to show me. How do I deal with that? It feels like if I don't do anything she might think I don't care and not even come back to this state, but if I do do something I don't want to lose my frame and her respect.

How do I walk the fine line of letting her feel she can have me, while still retaining my frame? Every time I interact with a girl, I get a fear that I will lose my power by letting her have me because I feel vulnerable since entering a relationship or whatever would mean someone else has something that I want, but do not have control over.

Any Don Juan here that are physicians? How did you manage time for studying and working on game?
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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