darkjedi
Don Juan
Ok here's the story. So I've been dating this woman for a little over a month now. I call her 1-2 times a week and only to setup dates nothing more. We will also text each other around the same number of times during the week as well. We get together once during the middle of the week for dinner usually and on the weekends Fri or Sat we get together and go out. The first few weeks I were pretty slow and I was escalating the kino trying to get her back to my place for a f-close. The following week I was finally able to f-close her and now I can consistently get her back to my place and have sex with her after our dates. This is pretty much how it's been going forward. We see each other 1-2 times a week, go out come back to my place have sex and she leaves the next day if it's a Fri or Sat. Again I don't talk much to her during the week.
Let me give you some info about her situation now:
She just got out of a LTR with someone she thought she would marry. He cheated on her and she broke it off. She was 18 when they hooked up and she is now 23. She has never dated anyone else and I'm the first person she has dated or even had sex with since. She consistently tells me that she is new to dating and does not know how it should work.
I would very much like to pursue a LTR with her, but I know that I should never tell her that and I've been telling her that that's the last thing that I want. In fact, when she feels that I am saying things that would indicate I want an LTR, she gets upset and I have to say anti LTR things to calm her down as she gets distant, meaning she'll usually hang up and not want to talk again that night or whatever. She has made it clear to me that she is in a weird place and wants to concentrate on herself, career, ect... and isn't ready for a relationship as she just got out of one and never has really been single before, however afterward she insists that she does like me and wants to see where things go. She also tells me that she does not want to date anyone else or have sex with anyone else, but she tells me she does not want to feel obligated to anyone right now.
Here's where I need the advice of the DJ's. I like things as they are now, getting together with her and I do like the sex; and would be open to an LTR with this woman, but as I've mentioned she is clearly not ready for it. I just don't understand everything else. We see each other, have a great time, have good sex, she's indicated that she does not want to date other people... it's almost like she does want an LTR, but keeps saying she does not. Her actions are clearly different than her words. Should I just stop bringing it up and just let things be as they are now and maybe when she is ready she will open up? Please DJ's any advice on this very confusing situation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance for you help!
Let me give you some info about her situation now:
She just got out of a LTR with someone she thought she would marry. He cheated on her and she broke it off. She was 18 when they hooked up and she is now 23. She has never dated anyone else and I'm the first person she has dated or even had sex with since. She consistently tells me that she is new to dating and does not know how it should work.
I would very much like to pursue a LTR with her, but I know that I should never tell her that and I've been telling her that that's the last thing that I want. In fact, when she feels that I am saying things that would indicate I want an LTR, she gets upset and I have to say anti LTR things to calm her down as she gets distant, meaning she'll usually hang up and not want to talk again that night or whatever. She has made it clear to me that she is in a weird place and wants to concentrate on herself, career, ect... and isn't ready for a relationship as she just got out of one and never has really been single before, however afterward she insists that she does like me and wants to see where things go. She also tells me that she does not want to date anyone else or have sex with anyone else, but she tells me she does not want to feel obligated to anyone right now.
Here's where I need the advice of the DJ's. I like things as they are now, getting together with her and I do like the sex; and would be open to an LTR with this woman, but as I've mentioned she is clearly not ready for it. I just don't understand everything else. We see each other, have a great time, have good sex, she's indicated that she does not want to date other people... it's almost like she does want an LTR, but keeps saying she does not. Her actions are clearly different than her words. Should I just stop bringing it up and just let things be as they are now and maybe when she is ready she will open up? Please DJ's any advice on this very confusing situation would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance for you help!