Confused Man

[LatinoSensation]

I'm Confused

Well granted I'm a DJ in training, otherwise I wouldn't be asking these questions. So basically this girl is sending me mixed messages. I get her number before winter break, and then I call her during break, and I tell her let's do something and says she'll call me. Well she doesn't and then I just think whatever. Well a couple days after break she's tells me how she's sorry she didn't call because she went on some trip. So I call her a few days later and pretty much same thing, I say let's do something. She says she's busy, so I assume whatever she's not interested, but then she says she probably will have some free time later and she'll call me. And also when I was talking to her that time she gave me her home phone number to call in the future. So I'm thinking wtf if she's not interested why would she give me her home number and even suggest doing something when she could just easily leave it at her being busy. But then obviously I wonder if she is interested why didn't she call me. So yea I'm just confused but also, I don't want to just act like it's okay that she does this. Because it's not cool and I have some self respect. So basically how should I act towards her?

Thanks for the help.

 

[LatinoSensation]

Is the post too long or something? I'd appreciate some help.

 

[TinyFzzyKiwi]

very confusing signals, i guess. Does it really matter? just stop worrying and anaylzying it all. If she calls you then she does, if she doesn't call her on it next time you see her.

I to am a dj in training, so anyone want to confirm/ correct me on what i just said?

 

[JSH]

It sounds confusing; a nice little rule to play with is three strikes and your out. If you ask her out on three seperate occassions and she doesnt get back to you. Leave it, the balls in her court anyway

 

[LatinoSensation]

Well I wasn't really planning on talking to her today, because I wasn't paying attention to her, but she initiated conversation with me. And then I ask her what's up with her not calling me, and she's says I told you I would forget. Which I don't even recall, but I'm thinking whatever. I don't know if I should call her or what. I'm figuring I'll wait probably a week or something. Or maybe I should just call her to talk to her for a few min. instead of asking her out again. I don't know.

Well thanks so far for the advice, I appreciate it.

 

[Jerky Boi]

"Hey, I'm going out this weekend and you're coming with me. 7 O'clock sound good?"


All it takes..



The signals are kinda confusing but you never really know, she actually could be busy most of the time. You have to think about it like this. Guys and girls are a lot different overall but..our reactions towards things are very similar. If there was a girl you weren't very interested in at all at school that asked you if you wanted to go do something this weekend, what would you say to subtly let her down?

"I have to go somewhere with my parents."
"I have other plans."
"I have to work."
"I have to go outta town."


Just think about it for a while and if one of the responses you come up with matches hers, then more than likely she's just letting you down easy. Although, if that were the case then she probably wouldn't suggest more dates with you after she said she was busy which leads me to the conclusion that she may actually be busy a lot. You have to give her the benefit of the doubt.