"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Confused...help DJs!

Ben15

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Well, I try to reserve posting here unless I really need the advice. I have been doing great with the girls and came across one girl that I really vibed with, definately a great catch. There's way too much background info but here is the jist of it. She came over to my place like twice, the first 2 times were really the only time we had been alone and really had time together. She came over to "work" on some music stuff with me, but honestly i think it was just an excuse for her to hang out with me. This girl is a good girl, and I mean good girl. We had a great time together "working" on music, I started off slow knowing her background, and did everything right, she seemed to like me alot. The last time she came over, I turned it up. Escalted everything and kept getting great responses (this was the 2nd time we hung out seriously). Honestly had one of the best times ever with a chick, she had it all personality and looks and was very respectable. Basically, she gave me soooo many hints and flirted so much. She asked ME to do a number of things: watch movies and tv at my place together, go out to the movies, etc...she even said my couch was so comfortable she would sleep on it haha ;) I thought I was in, she left, didn't go for the kiss, got a big hug and she told me to let her know when we are getting together next. Honestly, I thought it would have scared her away...so we made plans to hang out and watch a movie (where I was definately getting that kiss and more haha). Here is where it gets confusing. She basically asked ME to hang out, so I call her and she says she can hang out if she is back from work. I don't hear anything from her at all, I called once to see if she was back from work and she didn't pick up. I gave her the cold treatment and Sunday rolls around and she said her phone broke and she was "Soooo sorry and didn't want me to think she was ignoring me". I told her no big deal and made plans for the following tuesday. She says she can! but then texts me back that she forgot she had plans and how she was an idiot for forgetting. I was like whatever and told her if I had time I would make plans with her later. A few days pass, and I text her (while in class) to watch a movie at my place, she says she might be able to, but her sister is leaving for school and she might be spending the night with her. She said she would let me know...a day passes and she is with her friend and texts me asking to come over to my place, I being a DJ was with another chic lol and declined (figured it would only help anyway). She was kinda mad/playful but asked me what I was doing, etc...I flirted playfully back and kept her wondering :) Finally today was the day she was supposed to let me know if she was coming over to watch a movie, and she didn't send me a text, call or anything to at least to say that she couldn't make it. So now I don't know what to do? She seemed so interested and now has been acting kinda weird. She is leaving for school in a couple weeks so I don't know if that is it, but she is moving back next semester and kept "reminding" me that she was coming home from good after next semester. Basically, I thought I was IN but now have no idea. She may be playing "Hard to Get" but Im not sure. I figured Im going to cut off all contact until she contacts me...what do you guys think? Thanks!
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Perfect10

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Dude, seriously.... You're being extremely clingy and afc with her.
Really THINK about what you wrote and what happened and you'll already see a few mistakes.
The 2 most important things on a date in my opinion is:
1. Lots and lots and LOTS of kinoing
2. Leading the date! You choose where to go, what to do, when to do it. Not she!
 

seano99

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i dont agree with perfect10... i'm going to take a different view.

i dont think ben15 has done anything really wrong. they had an awesome time now she is giving herself space. we cant know why... but i dont think it has anything to do with ben15.

i think she's giving herself space, creating distance, her interest is LOW. maybe she doesn't want to pursue something at this time. she might like ben15, but because she's going away she might have talked herself out of hanging with him. i'd play this as a longball game. perhaps when she come back to live she'd be more receptive.

i'd say let her do the contacting, no more contacting her. if she's interested she'll go out of her way to hang out. if she texts but wont hang out, she's attention wh0ring.. in that case cut her off quick.

just my thoughts.. i'm no massive expert tho
 

Ben15

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While I appreciate the feedback I don't think I was clingy at all, I did kino quite alot, and even though she wanted to watch the movie, I tried to watch it on MY schedule, not hers. I only contacted her when neccessary as well. There's so much I left out, since I didn't want to write a novel, but honestly I had never been so sure that a girl liked me in my life, I mean all the signs were there. Its cool I have 2 other girls Im seeing as well, I just actually saw some potential in this one. Im gonna give her the cold treatment, like you said if she likes me she will contact me. Any other responses are appreciated! Thanks guys!
 

Ben15

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Not even 1 day of silent treatment, she has already texted me haha...i will keep you guys posted!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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CarlitosWay

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You're fine....don't get riled up over minuscule ****. I find when I forget out about the small stuff and stay busy with other girls/gym/studying. My head clears up and I make better moves. She's leaving for school in a couple weeks that's a lot of time to get some action out of her.

Seems like your cutting yourself short cause of this. I think you should cool it for a bit. Then next time you're with her escalate her like no other. Let her know you're one fun sexual mofo and nothing less. If you have kissed her and all that jazz.. Better be damned sure she thinks about it later on.

The thing I work to achieve with women is...having them automatically think of touching, fun, teasing, great sexual pleasure, no bs when my name or image comes to mind. Thus excluding any doubts about who I might be or am and what I represent as a MAN.
 

Pimp-sicle

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Two things:

-How far away is her school from home? If its really far I'm betting she doesn't want to get too close to you before she leaves.

-Your NOT escalating enough. Kino is great, but you need to at least kiss close ESPECIALLY if your getting positive vibes from her.

Anyways, its good you've got other girls in your rotation and I think if you freeze her out she'll come around.

Your goal she be to kiss close before she leaves for school.





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Ben15

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Well yesterday she contacted me and asked me to watch a movie this week together, I was playful with her and eventually accepted, but on MY terms. I will let you guys know what happens...Im getting that kiss close and more!
 
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