"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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confused as ****

S.Y.L

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So, im talking to this chick that I like. I'm pretty sure she liked me before, as no guys ever talk to her much really, and shes shy as hell. It seemed to be going fine before, her firend even said she talks about me.

she then asks me, "why do you talk to me so much"

by then im like.........wtf


so im like, "cuz i feel like it, and you seem like a nice person, so why not"
shes like, oh ok, just wondering

then she claims that her friend was making up stuff about her, and then she keeps convincing me that she doesn't like me, and she keeps saying, that her friend told her, that i liked her and stuff


i have a feeling, she knows, that i know she likes me, and she doesnt want to admit it or somthing, but i dunno, what do you think
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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THE WHOLE REASON OF SS IS TO AVOID THIS ****....
who gives a **** if she says this or that....if you want her, get her
why do you need such feeble reassurance..?
what are you afraid of?

CELEBRATE WHEN YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL AND CELEBRATE WHEN YOU ARE REJECTED...YOU WANT TO GROW OLD AND LOOK BACK AND HAVE MANY MEMORIES OF YOUR CONQUESTS...IF YOU CONTINUE THE PATH YOU'RE ON NOW, YOU'LL ONLY HAVE 1 CONQUEST OR NONE TO REMEMBER BECAUSE YOU WERE ALWAYS WAITING TO KNOW SHE WAS INTERESTED FIRST
 

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jeffthechef said:
THE WHOLE REASON OF SS IS TO AVOID THIS ****....
who gives a **** if she says this or that....if you want her, get her
why do you need such feeble reassurance..?
what are you afraid of?

CELEBRATE WHEN YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL AND CELEBRATE WHEN YOU ARE REJECTED...YOU WANT TO GROW OLD AND LOOK BACK AND HAVE MANY MEMORIES OF YOUR CONQUESTS...IF YOU CONTINUE THE PATH YOU'RE ON NOW, YOU'LL ONLY HAVE 1 CONQUEST OR NONE TO REMEMBER BECAUSE YOU WERE ALWAYS WAITING TO KNOW SHE WAS INTERESTED FIRST
^ Words of Mother Effin' Wisdom.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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shaunuk

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Haha, props to jeffthechef! Look bro, do you wanna go for it and possibly get the girl, or do you wanna look back on your conquests when you're an old man and say..."oh there was this girl who probably liked me in high school". Who gives a fvck, you didn't do anything, you just sat there like a lemon.

How I see it is, her friend started teasing her and gossiping saying "heheee, <girl> likes SYL hehee"...As a result <girl> thinks you might've heard of this gossip so wants to know if that's why you're talking to her. Her friends didn't pull this sh1t out of their a*ses, she probably likes you.

Which brings back the point above made by jeffthecheff...stop messing about asking us, just do it mate. Ask her to hang with you :)
 

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Thats what I was thinking, why would she keep trying to get me to think she doesn't like me.

I almost always dont need help when it comes to this stuff, but I was a bit confused this time.
 

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****, i realize just how stupid I was, she asked why I talk to her, because she wanted to hear that I liked her, then I gave her a questionable answer.

She then asked if I liked her, and I said no, so then she went on about how she didn't like me after the fact I said I didn't.

I am so clueless sometimes, ughh.
 

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S.Y.L said:
****, i realize just how stupid I was, she asked why I talk to her, because she wanted to hear that I liked her, then I gave her a questionable answer.

She then asked if I liked her, and I said no, so then she went on about how she didn't like me after the fact I said I didn't.

I am so clueless sometimes, ughh.
Bro dont worry about it, you'll get another shot at her but this time its gonna have to be YOU whos the one initiating things and SHOWING you like her back. Cuz at this point shes getting the impression that you dont have any interest in her, so its important that you dont let her just slip away and forget about you.

You gotta stop questioning and thinking so much and start being more confident, active, and social with her.
 
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