Confused as h3ll

[sbgm]

Hello! I'm the most confused man in the world right now.

This girl and I, we have the strangest relationship you can imagine. Here's the story...

Last year, we was in the same class (I was a Major AFC), I had a oneitis on her for half the year. Our relation was though kind of flirty.

But I think she just manipulated me for fun, when she for example said, "Hey, get my shirt over there". So we dissed each other and she found a BF, a real player who was just out for sex

As I knew he would, he dumped her after some months.

Now, me and this girl is not in the same class and the weird things starts here.

This term, our contact started like (gonna look in the convo-log) "Hey how much is a dozen?"

She was studying and wanted help. This had happened before when I was major AFC (Ok, not saying that I'm not AFC now). I hepled her. Think the convo went on for some hours. In school, when she saw me, she greeted we with a great smile and a happy wave. Some weeks/days later (dunno) she was said to Simon (my friend) "Hey, you got that old essay about China?, can you send me that? sbgm can give you my msn" I said like "Don't cheat" and kinoed her. I did not gave Simon her msn.

We had a small party at my house and I invited her over. Just strange mixed signals that i don't understand.

Okay. So last friday, she started neg-hitting on me. Two times that day. In the night there was a great party at a club, and she said "Hey come on now, get down and dance with me". I had to go to the loo. And when I came out, she wasn't there so i started dancing withy some of my girl-friends.

Later, when I tried to dance with her, I think she dissed me. She only danced with her girl-friends.

I know this seems like I'm over analyzing but the only thing I want to know is an outstanding opinion. You can't tell me from text what to do, but please, give me some clarity. Have you ever experienced something like this? Can you recommend a thread? Please, my mind is screwed...

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Buddy, you are in the LJBF zone. For the ppl that don't know what LJBF = Let's just be friends.

You already knew that she manipulated you for fun, and that manipulation resulted in her banging another guy? Come on bro. Get real.

Honestly, if you want to have a shot at banging this chick, you are going to need to raise her interst level in you. And the two best ways to do this is (1) Raise your social proof and (2) Drop most of your contact with her.

(1) You need to raise your social proof. This girl sees you as some AFC guy that never had the b*lls to approach her last year. So why should she want to get with you now? Why? Because you are dating her friends. You are going out with other girls. You have stopped with the one-itis, you have pushed this girl off the pedistal, and have gone on with your life. Go out! Party without her! Stop being her emotional tampon that she can keep running to when other guys f*ck her over. You should be TOO busy for this chick to even get ahold of because you're out with other girls. Let her know this. Be desired by others, and you'll soon be desired by her. This maybe an over simplification...but sometimes its the simple stuff that alludes us.

(2) Cut off all contact. I made mention to this in part (1). But, it is so true. If this girl knows she has her hooks into you, and you'll drop everything to get with her and succomb to all of her whims, then my friend you are her emotional tampon. She doesn't want some guy to prove himself to her. She should have to prove herself to you. She should prove that she is worth YOUR time. Worth YOUR effort. Worth YOUR game.

Next time you're at the club. Keep dancing with your girlfriends. Ignore her. Push her away. Keep her questioning why? Why doesn't he like me anymore? Why don't I have him wrapped around my finger? Why am I not good enough for him anymore?

Get some confidence and stop worrying about her...have her worry about you.

 

[sbgm]

Thanks bro! Just what I needed... I'm gonna do exactly what you said

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=16976&highlight=********

Its a thread on woman-ese...I think you'll find this interesting if you have not already read it. Anything by our oldtimer DJ friend Pook is a good read.

 

[sbgm]

Haha! That good ol' woman-ese word-book!
Thanks!