"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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confused after going out with girl

jrodbendi

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I met this girl through my social circle a few weeks ago and we hit it off and I got her #. Yesterday we went to the Santa Monica Pier and went on the roller coasters. We both had a good time; she was laughing a lot and I was using a lot of kino.

The problem was I put too much pressure on getting a kiss from her, because I feared that if I didn't she would peg me in the dreaded "friends zone." On our way back to my car, I stopped her so that she was facing me, ran my hand through her hair, and tried to see if she was willing to kiss me. She kind of turned her body to the side making it impossible.

As a last ditch effort at that point I remembered Mystery's kiss close, where you say to the girl "would you like to kiss me?" (if she says yes or maybe you kiss her and if she says no you tell her "I didn't say you could; it just looked like there was something on your mind") So I ask her and she says "we can't do that." Flustered I forget to say the second part of the "routine."

What do I make of this? Is it possible that there's still attraction and it was just the wrong place, wrong time, or should I accept the fact that she just wants to be friends and the "we can't do that" was a reference to some other guy in her life?

I feel like noting that she gave me a hug and told me that she had a great time as she was getting out of my car at the end. She is, from what my friends tell me about her, a romantic as well.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Aureliano

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Maybe she saw you were a bit needy and clingy, maybe she is playing hard to play. Maybe even a mixture of both.

Either way, don't focus on this one single girl. If she didn't want to be your romantical friend, then simply search for a new one.
 

jrodbendi

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sage advice man, thanks

She did IM me last night, which was the first time she ever initiated anything (so I take it as a good sign).

I'll see where this goes, but at the same time I'm not going to put all my marbles on her.
 
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