Confused about women/girls/ladies

[Typhiphurium]

Hey all,

I've been looking through this forum for the past week or so, and I have to say it's really helpful stuff. So, I decided to post here with my own predicament. I'd appreciate any input. Thanks.

I'm a sophomore in college now, but I've never actually been with a girl. That's my background or lackthereof.

I've been eyeing this one girl this semester, and 4-5 weeks ago, I talked to her. She's in a hell of a lot of my classes and is extremely smart and pretty. I usually sit with her in class, and we do talk and joke around in/between classes. All in all, I get good vibes, but how the hell should I know. She gave me her number, but it might have been out of necessity more than anything because I lent her my notes a while back.

Three weeks ago or so, I asked if she wanted to get dinner or something. She said sure, it seems hesitantly, but we didn't set a time because her schedule is pretty packed and variable. Well I called her twice, but it she said she fell asleep before and never heard it. She seemed really sorry. So we set up a time later in the week, but she doesn't pick up again. Needless to say, I stopped trying that. So the last week or two, we kind of just ignored that, and still talk and stuff. It actually seems to be a bit better than before.

So its break now, and she went home, and I'm left to wondering what in the world to do. Sorry about the lengthiness, but any advice?

 

[TheSplat]

Let her see u with another girl. It'll add mystery to you, make you look more attractive in her eyes, a basic DHV. Also, now you have to back off the throttle for a few weeks. Ignore her, maybe throw her a soft neg. Stop chasing.

 

[xdreamz]

shes just not interested in you yet.

asking her out for dinner is a formal way of asking for a date. now unless you've done something extreme to show your interest to her, she will most likely let you down in the easiest way possible.

try a softer more indirect approach like lunch or maybe getting her to show you around town, turn her into a study buddy anything that doesn't convey that you're trying to pursue her in that way.