"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Confused about this girl

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Hey guys..

I have ben talking to this girl for a while. I met her before the summer and I have tried to make some moves on her like do some kino when she was at my house lying in my bed.

The problem is that one of her friends have liked me and I fooled around with her for a little time, nothing serious and these two girls have known each other for a while and talk regulary.

As time went on I just thought what the heck and told her that I would love to have her my way (Dont know if this was a mistake) but I invited her to my place the following day I told her that and did some kino on her.. I did not go for a kiss even though my gut told me do it.. Wussed out and she let me carres her the whole time....

So stupid I am I wrote to her the next day that I really wanted to kiss her and she told me it was not a great idea because of her friend. I just thouht **** this and acted indifferent about the whole thing and asked if she wanted to come over at my place again. She agreed and again I wussed out on trying to kiss her...

Its now ben 1 week and 3 days since she was at my house and we havent had any contact until today because I just thought she not was interested in me more than friends so I just let i go..

Today she wrote to me; Hey Luke, hows you week?
Im confused. Maybe I am overanalyzing and hoping she wants to be more.. However insight on this would be great.

Sorry for the long read.

*edit* when I did some kino on her ass second time she was at my house she would slap my hand, however she would let me kino on her stomach, back, head etc.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What's the question?
 

Luke

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The question would be;

Should I pursue this anymore further? And what would an appropriate answear be to her text? just be indifferent to it?
 

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You're being a *****. It seems like you're trying to convince yourself of not needing to kiss her in order to keep this going. You should've just gone for it dude! Feels bad not to do something out of fear. Take this as a lesson.

However, it's not over yet, so just answer her, chill with her and actually go for the kiss. Don't ask her, just do it.
 

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hehe.. I wanted somebody else to tell you that first part Norwegian mentioned. Don't be offended cause he is right. Be a man... and don't do what I used to.. don't make rocket science out of it.

You can mentain her interest for so long by doing the same thing.
Do what your you WANT. Just go for it and don't worry about stupid s***.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thanks! This is just what I needed to hear! I textedit back and fourth and er arranged to be prom dates and chill at my place. This time I an going for the kiss atleast.. Thankd again guys. Will Update in nearest furture.
 

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Remember that kissing her at the end of the date puts a lot of pressure on you. Try to kiss her within 30 minutes. Grab her hand within 10.
 

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I am seeing her tonight at her place. I would like to mention that this girl barely have any sexual experience, she has kissed before but not anything beyond that. So we'll see how it goes.
 
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