"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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confused about this girl

KneghtRyder

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this is my issue.


the girl i want is a waitress at a strip club. She is not a stripper. I have been going there and talking to her for a while.

I am waiting until my job workload clears before I ask her out for a date...

ALthough I really like her and want to make her mine,

there are also alot of guys that goto this strip club. And since she is a waitress, she gets alot of

attention.

It really gets me pissed off or jealous, when I see her talking to these other guys, I am not sure

if she is trying to be "open" to them so that they'll pick her up.. it just gets me jealous.

On another front, Maybe its her job to be a flirt with them. i am not sure.

Typically a waitress will stand up and ask them what they want; this girl will sit next to them in the chair

or knee low on the floor, and it seems like shes 'leading' them on with convo.

I am not sure..


THIS shyt, i dont get it. when a girl is open to a relationship at a time in her life and I approach her and

things get rolling, but it seems she's still open to relationships or still seeking other chances. I mean, its also

not her fault completely because I have not yet taken her on a date or anything
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I would expect it is her job to be nice to the customers. Stop being jealous. Thats a b!tch emtion. You a *****? If not go ask her out and stop makeing excuses cause you can be sure theres a million other guys hitting on her. Don't just be anotha averge perv in a strip club. Make it happen.
 

skirtChaser

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dude you're a pvssy!.....she makes her money off tips fool!....she has to come on to all the guys and make them think she is going home with them and then she sneeks out the back door and goes home to her fat drunk boyfriend she had a kid with six years ago, its how she gets maximum tips, you're probably going to get kicked out for acting like a dumb a$$. shes playing you, wake up and get a life you whimp
 

Lexie

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^^ Absolutely, more flirting=better tips...take it from a waitress. This in no way means she's interested in them. "Getting on their level" can increase your tips a significant amount. And you have no right to be jealous, she's not yours! Sounds like you're getting too emotionally involved too quickly, jealousy is a big turn off.
 

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Forget her, this can only end in disaster.

If you are the jealous type, then dating such a girl is a HUGE NO NO!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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dav22

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Monkey said:
Forget her, this can only end in disaster.

If you are the jealous type, then dating such a girl is a HUGE NO NO!
Exactly. Judging by your post you're not in the right frame of mind, asking her out will be the LEAST of your troubles if you have confidence issues.

Remember it doesn't matter how many hundreds of guys are hitting on her, as long as you're confident enough you can still get her.
 

kdnash82

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You have got to be kidding me. I feel so sorry for you. You're in a strip club expecting to pick up women? I never knew something so sad could be so hilarious.

The only advice I'm gonna give you is to save your money and stop going to strip clubs to meet women.
 
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