"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Confused about all this stuff

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Asix

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Here's the deal:
Over here at my school there are tons of attractive girls most of the guys would strive for (like there's a school without hot chicks, oh yeah... Sorry, I digress :D). The problem is that we guys just don't know them and don't have a clue what to do in order to meet and (eventually) date them. In fact, I know lots of them, but I don't know the one I would like to date.
You see, there's always a group of about 4 or 5 hot chicks, and if I like one of them, I would first focus on getting to know better with the rest of the girls in the group, and then proceed to dating my final "target". Yeah, that makes sense, really. But the problem is that I just don't have an idea how would I just "start" to getting used to hanging out with them when there's a break at school or something. I mean, I can't just walk up to them and say "oh hi I just wanted to come and start knowing you better". I think it's pretty clear what's the problem: I just don't get a chance to meet that group of girls so I could proceed to some "advanced" socializing with them before I can ask one of them for a date. The thing is that I know some of the girls from the group a little, and I definitely need to get to know them better, so they get used to hanging out with me, so I could meet them better and see if the girl I want is really worth trying.
Yet I want all that look natural to them, so they don't become suspicious and start wondering why I'm trying to keep in touch with them.
Any ideas where to start? I know that here are some people who are geniuses for such things, so you are free to say your opinion. Just don't be shy to teach me :D :D :D :D
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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easy.

get at least 2 of your guy friends together. get a couple of girls from that group you mentioned. ask them if they want to go to the mall or someplace (you decide) over the weekend with your friends. basically *you* should arrange a group date. easy. nothing awkward in that.
 
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Yeah, that sounds like a good idea, but the fact is that some of the girls from that group are already in relationships, and if we ask them out, that will really be awkward. The other problem is that the most of the girls in the group aren't from my town, and they travel every day in order to go to school and after it they go back home... The third problem is that we don't know any of them that good, so we can just ask them out. Any clue on this?
 
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Playing the friend card doesn't really work too good. It takes ALOT of time and effort and they generally just end up playing you - using you for attention, money or a window into your friends. Never make friends with a girl you want to date. Infact don't make friends with girls period - they will start to see you as one of the girls.

You need to isolate your target from the group by waiting. When this is done approach confidently and introduce yourself, don't ramble on but try to get her to laugh a bit before excusing yourself and then ask for her number. Make it natural and non-threatening.

As for what you talk about, try to think of something relevant.
 
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Asix said:
The third problem is that we don't know any of them that good, so we can just ask them out. Any clue on this?
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yes u can bro, u dont have to kno them to ask the out. a majority of the girls u date will not kno u when u ask them out. it's called getting to know them ON the date.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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ok this is what u do, first if u r not at least a senior DJ, have studied the craft of DJing and being in the field for a least half a year with rigrous training, dont go for anything more that HB7-8s, otherwise you will get burned horribly by 9s.
When u r good, get a wingman, i say for a group of 4 hb 9s, they will all have their bich shield up when u appraoch, so u 2 must know the art of DJ very well, other wise you dont have a chance.
So start studing and practicing, then go for them in half a year.
 
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Zerotwoonenine said:
ok this is what u do, first if u r not at least a senior DJ, have studied the craft of DJing and being in the field for a least half a year with rigrous training, dont go for anything more that HB7-8s, otherwise you will get burned horribly by 9s.
When u r good, get a wingman, i say for a group of 4 hb 9s, they will all have their bich shield up when u appraoch, so u 2 must know the art of DJ very well, other wise you dont have a chance.
So start studing and practicing, then go for them in half a year.
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nooooooo.

the more experience the better

always.

throw yourself into rough situations, and if you make it out alive you'll be that much more ready for others.
 
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Get to know one of them in class, at least. It's real easy, just ask one for paper or something.

Then when you see them at lunch, smirk or make a ****y comment at the one you know. Try and make conversation flow from there. It's that simple as that. Just be confident.
 
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HolyG said:
Get to know one of them in class, at least. It's real easy, just ask one for paper or something.

Then when you see them at lunch, smirk or make a ****y comment at the one you know. Try and make conversation flow from there. It's that simple as that. Just be confident.
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can u write any smaller?
 
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