I am a second year student and a tutor for the first year students at my university. One of the new students (I am 41 and she is around 22-23, I assume) has been very flirtatious from the first moment we met. On the first school-day we had an introductory meeting and as soon as I sat down, she tole me that she had seen me outside the same morning. On a few occasions after we met and had to go our separate ways she either initiated a hug, or we had a very flirtatious and extremely deep eye-contact, or she has waved for me specifically when we were further away. We do not have any classes together, and I do not see her that often in school, unless I organize tutoring classes or other activities, or unless I purposefully go look her up at her classes, which I don't. I have a few times sat down with her (having her follow me) at a party, or just stopped her for a flirty tease when we have walked into each other, etc, which she has always enjoyed. I did ask her out last week, before her class when she was walking to school. She was again happy to see me, and said that she was working on the day I had in mind, but was open to "hook up", and told me that she will add me as a friend on Facebook, which she did.
I messaged her today, proposing two days to meet up next week. She called me on Facebook an hour or so later, telling me that I caught her in a situation where she was "in her head" and she does not want to meet up, but did not want to write it, but call instead, as it would be more personal and that she does not want to ruin anything between us. I said it is OK, and that it was good of her to tell me that. She also said that she still would like to see me at a board game evening we have planned for the next week with the other students.
Thus far she has been extremely flirtatious 90% of the time. On two occasions she has on the other hand been either neutral, ignoring me, or dismissing me. She may have had some mood swings, as the next time she went back to flirtatious.
She is quite shy and reserved, but also very polite. I the beginning I thought that being polite is her default state - and it is, to some extent - but she is not that flirtatious with other people as far as I can tell.
So, I am a bit of a loss here. Could her telling me no be one of her mood swings which might mean nothing at all? Could it be some kind of a **** test to see how I react? Or could it be she was never that much into me afterall?
I messaged her today, proposing two days to meet up next week. She called me on Facebook an hour or so later, telling me that I caught her in a situation where she was "in her head" and she does not want to meet up, but did not want to write it, but call instead, as it would be more personal and that she does not want to ruin anything between us. I said it is OK, and that it was good of her to tell me that. She also said that she still would like to see me at a board game evening we have planned for the next week with the other students.
Thus far she has been extremely flirtatious 90% of the time. On two occasions she has on the other hand been either neutral, ignoring me, or dismissing me. She may have had some mood swings, as the next time she went back to flirtatious.
She is quite shy and reserved, but also very polite. I the beginning I thought that being polite is her default state - and it is, to some extent - but she is not that flirtatious with other people as far as I can tell.
So, I am a bit of a loss here. Could her telling me no be one of her mood swings which might mean nothing at all? Could it be some kind of a **** test to see how I react? Or could it be she was never that much into me afterall?
