"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Confronting her on her attitude

San

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We all know nobody is alike, that's one of the beauties of life; diversity!

If have know this girl/woman for almost 1,5 years now.
In the beginning it was all beautiful.. but events started happening..

Fastforward to a month ago;


She said she still considers us together, then she came and collect her stuff she stashed her back to her paretns place.. i dont think anything of that really. BUt then she calls me for the first time ever telling me she considers us separate.
She almost, no.. she NEVER never calls me anymore but keeps on giving me phonenumbers of her boss at work, her mother's phonenumber and her own number!?

If i call she never calls back. sms no reply.

Why would she still give these numbers?

I havent called or sms-ed her since a few months, maybe 1 or 2 times a sms telling her she has email.

In those emails i confront her with her games, yet she keeps denying always.

Some examples of game (in my eyes) she plays;

Never answering to my questions through sms-email, when i talk her on the phone sometimes she cannot avoid my questions so she will answer.

she wrote in her email; im gonna give you a phonenr where you can reach me on, enjoy life! x

BEfore she left she said she will be back..

She also says she doesnt like the way i talk and that she doesnt understand anything, although my english is damn on the button!



Clear cut case right?

Any thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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origin138

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This broad is giving you mixed messages. Women who are interested in you don't do this.

Time for you to be gone, ghost, and don't call her ever again regardless of what false hopes she's throwing your way.

She's doing the typical "fade away" that disinterested "women" do. She lacks the constitution to tell you plainly she isn't interested, so she's distancing herself in the hope you get the hint.

No contact, move on with new women, and stop doing the dance with this one.
 

Scaramouche

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Dear San,
It's over mate! nice,neat and clean shes taken her gear and gone...Go no contact,it's just another Popsicle finished...Don't brood,just find a couple more plates to spin...You've been here for ten years so you know the drill!
 

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My thoughts are that you are stalking her and she is freaked the f*ck out by you....
 

Married Buried

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There is nothing you can say to change her behavior. The more you confront, the more she will misbehave. The only thing you can do is cut off ALL attention and chase other women. Only then will she start acting straight.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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San

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After doing some research i discovered that she probably has some form of BPD. Like using sex for domination instead of pleasuring the man.
There's chivalry inside of me, which arranged for me to put up with all the bull**** and seeing if things would improve but they didnt.
I will not contact her, i'll be here for her as a friend if she needs me.
 

San

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friends is success!
 

San

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But i understand why most say it.. i'd say: those who have no thought of themselves are victorious..
 
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