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So right, there is a saint pattys day party going on downtown next weekend.

There are gonna be tons of people there. They are encouraging everyone to wear as much green as possible.

I am curious as to how you people would dress at something like this.

Go totally green, facepaint, weird hat, green everything? kind throws out a fun vibe.

Go in a green t-shirt or something, not too much, keep it really casual, but observe the fact that you know that you are supposed to wear green to this party and so you are wearing green.

Or, wear like a little green something that it looks like you ran out and got from the store next door because you forgot you are supposed to wear green, but you still wanna be nice and play along, so you got a little something.


Even better I was thining of just wearing normal clothes, nothing green, and then trying to get people, especially beautiful women, to loan me green articles as kind of a fun game to play.

Your thoughts? Blatant conformity? Blatant unconformity? Casual AFC style?
 

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By the way this question, I feel, transcends the boundaries of an actual situational question and extends more into the realm of self and public perception in a more existential sense. So please use this as an opportunity to have some deep intellectual discussion about the sources of and manifestation of social manipulation.

Thanks!
 

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I think it's more AFC to worry about it than to do it.

When I go to events like this, I do what I want. If I want to wear a green t-shirt, then that's what I do. If I want to get decked out in a freakin top hat, then I'll do that.

Do what you want. It's a party. No one cares. If a guy goes to a St Patrick's day party in non-St Patty's Day clothes, no one says "Wow he's such an alpha male!" If a person did this with the intention of standing out and trying to look "different", then it just ends up being a gimmick. Confidence, charisma and conversation skills get you girls. Not gimmicks.

Besides, it's only conforming if you're doing it just to please the masses. You can eliminate the social manipulation by simply not going to the party.
 

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Let me just lay this down really quick. My game is air-tight. Confidence, charisma, and conversation skills are completely on point.

My question is related to the finer points of game. I want to chisel into perfection. After broad strokes are layed down, one must iron out details. Details, I feel, is what separates guys who get 9s and guys that get 10s. Right now, I am on a 10 quest. Thus I worry about minute details.
 

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I never follow the theme of theme parties. Unless it's halloween. There's too many theme parties in college anyway, and girls are the ones that usually go all-out. I don't think it really matters unless you make a big deal out of the fact that you aren't following it. Once for St Patrick's day I rocked the most red outfit possible and half the girls thought it was lame but then another half wanted pictures of them in green and me in red. That was cool I guess.

So, short summary: as with everything, it's irrelevant unless you're a try-hard.
 

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