"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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this girl im interested in,a little background info, she once liked me,a few months back for like a week and i found this out 2 weeks ago..briliant.

we have always mucked around and "flirted",but she has always said in one way or another she only wants to be my friend nothing more,but then when she is drunk or even sober sometimes she is all over me,hugging me,sucking my neck,trying to hit me in the balls,licking my face just the general kino stuff,when she sleeps over my place i give her backrubs,and we get REALLY close,but then bang back to step one it seems,she sends so many conflicting messages... is there anyway i can do a test to find out if she is a pretender or the real thing? ....

last night,i was pretty annoyed at her (she didnt know) and she came and stood next to me,and i sorta moved away (to protect my balls cause i thought she'd try hit me) then she goes "ohh fine i wont stand near you then.." and walked away,and for the next 10 minutes she seemed really cut-didnt say a word,ignored people when they talked to her,then suddenly starts talking again like all is good,and for the rest of the night she kept asking me why i wouldnt kiss my ex,when we said bye that night it was asif she didnt care,was just the plainest goodbyes,i got cut cause i didnt get a hug *oh how afc*,but i didnt show her,im just going insane wondering what she wants....

i can NOT tell her i like her,it'd ruin everything with this one,trust me on this one,and i dont wanna next her yet,i have this weird gut feeling she is hiding her feelings for me,and she'd hide them because my ex is her best friends and all of the principle bull**** girls go on about,the only way i can change this is if SHE tells me she likes me,or we get drunk one night and kiss,which almost happened once,i need help......

im going insane in wonder,and my lust for her is eating me alive,although ive NEVER acted afc with her,ive read fingers post about "escaping the friendzone" and the only thing there i hafto do is make her think i have high standards but juding from my ex,that'll be hard to do hahaha....... anyone here? can help me on this one? im going insane here,i just need to find out if she is the real thing...
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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i've been into the the same situation.. take her out, get her drunk,tease her to the extreme, and she is yours...
 

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by the way, after than she is not gonna talk you.. she would probably hate u.. you gotta take this risk..
 

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ohh ok thanks for the reply's,any idea's on how to test/play this situation?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yes... getta big glass of "No-more-oneitus" and watch her beg for you when ur with other chicks.

If she see's you with the other chicks its gonna do 1 of 2 things... she'll either beg for attention and show you how she feels, or she'll find some other guy and try and make you just as jealous... either way your better off... even tho im a chronic junkie...oneitus sux
 

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im going insane in wonder,and my lust for her is eating me alive

She knows the effect she has on you bro; her ego must be sky high right now. This girl is enjoying every second of it.

Personally, I don't have the patience for this type of behavior. Hugging you, sucking your neck, hitting your balls, licking your face...are you kidding? This would annoy me very quickly because it's immature behavior.

You should totally distance yourself from her; she should 'know' that she's annoying you. Will she be pissed, probably, but who cares? It would be a win/win situation for you. Why? Here are two reasons.

1. If she is 'really' into you, she'll do anything to get your attention, including talking it to the next level and stopping with the childish behavior.

2. If she gets mad and stops talking to you, then you don't have to deal with her nonsense and 'mixed' signals anymore (you don't have time for that crap). You can move on to a more mature girl.

See what I'm saying?
 

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i know what you guys mean and thanks for the replies,its just its conflicted whatever i do cause i value her friendship,also in a few days she is gonna stay at my place overnight alone me and her for drinks and her friend that ive had probs with is out of town,this will be a perfect opportunity with what ive told you guys,how do i approach this night? ... 1.i cant let her know i like her,2.she HAS to make the 1st move.....

whats the best way to game this,i was thinking teasing her alot,and getting as close as i can to her but in a mucking around way,what u guys think?
 
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