"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've been reading through "The Game" and i feel somewhat drawn in different directions. I feel like Style... I like the nobility behind DeAngelo & Mystery's work but I like the instant gratification of Jeffery's patterns, NLP & SS.
I want to choose a certain area to study under but have a bit of guilt working under the whole hypnosis idea...

I dunno, maybe i'm just frustrated taking in so much at once. I need to breath & try some of this new stuff out then make up my mind.

Problem w/ the noble route is it takes time that I don't always have (lol who can wait 4-7 hrs to bed a girl :D) wheras there's the moral dillema with "tricking" them into doing it in 30 mins. I could just do a combination... but the guilt is still there.

-- As a side note i'm getting rid of all the boring and low IOI Hb's on msn... too much work behind that and it's not nearly as reliable as just pulling numbers. I'm weeding it out slowly. Only quality from here on in...
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Originally posted by Egoist
you say it as if NLP **** is SOOOO easy to learn and pull off.. :crackup:
I've been in sales a long time. Patterns are easy to memorize and if you have control over the way you speak (speed, tone, enunciation, etc...) and can read body language well it's not difficult at all.
The theory behind it is difficult to learn but all that work has already been done (thankfully)
 

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Originally posted by syncmaster
I've been in sales a long time. Patterns are easy to memorize and if you have control over the way you speak (speed, tone, enunciation, etc...) and can read body language well it's not difficult at all.
The theory behind it is difficult to learn but all that work has already been done (thankfully)
well i think you're putting things too far on different spectrums. Mysterys and DDs stuff is not that noble.. its just a somewhat different approach..

the way I see it the only true and noble game.. welll i was going to say confidence and natural game, but im not sure if that even exists.. Its more like framing and perceptions anyways..

sooo, whatever works for you to be yourself and get hot babes.
 

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lol sync.

I think I've completed all of your goals, except for the >5 # close. The 3 set I did was surprisingly easy, but it's not really ideal to close all of them. Then you have to deal with which one to call, and remembering who was who.

I don't know why I told you this, but i guess I just found them too easy man. You gotta challenge yourself, you've been here since 2001, idk how much of that has been going out regularly, but that's the biggest thing that helped me.

You've inspired me to write goals of my own for my sig, thanks!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by animal crackers
lol sync.

I think I've completed all of your goals, except for the >5 # close. The 3 set I did was surprisingly easy, but it's not really ideal to close all of them. Then you have to deal with which one to call, and remembering who was who.

I don't know why I told you this, but i guess I just found them too easy man. You gotta challenge yourself, you've been here since 2001, idk how much of that has been going out regularly, but that's the biggest thing that helped me.

You've inspired me to write goals of my own for my sig, thanks!
I think the most difficult one there is the boyfriend one- any suggestions?
As far as going out - i used to a ton. I was in a 3 year ltr from June 2002 until Aug 2005 so i didn't see the need in sarging. But i've been making it a weekly habit now. Getting back into the proper mindset that i got into when i met my ex 3 years ago.
 

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TRY everything, fieldtest everything, find out what works for you. ive read the book and cant imagine ross jefries pulling of magic tricks to win the crowd there for he does what works for him. if you test everything you will find out what works for you.
 
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