Conflicting behavior?

[The LadyKiller]

Over the past couple of weeks, I have noticed that HB's in my social circle have been afraid to start drama with me, actually say "no" when they don't want to do something, or call me out on anything. I know you're thinking, "Yes, LadyKiller is in complete control, all these HB's look up to him!" Well, no.

For starters, I'm not hooking up with said HB's. Second and more importantly, this negatively affects my communication with said HB's. Here's an example: Last weekend, I attended a friend's party. Some of us were about to play a drinking game, I asked a girl I know and have been talking to if wanted to play. We got lost in the shuffle of people around this time as they were setting up the game. My buddy tells me later on that the girl told him she didn't want to play because she was about to pass out (this was true - she was on the couch asleep 10 minutes later). But why couldn't she simply tell me that? I wouldn't have been upset, and she only told my buddy - who she doesn't really know - because she knows he and I are close (and that he'd fill me in).

There have been some lesser examples with other girls too. One girl tried to b!tch at me about something, I asked what she was talking about, then she reversed course, said she was joking and laughed nervously. Another girl was annoyed that I was playing a small prank on my friend, but she was laughing along the entire time. She told this friend she was mad later, but never gave me any indication. You guys get the point.

Looking in the mirror might offer some clues. I'm no Brad Pitt and am under 6' tall, but I have a visibly muscular physique. I'm outgoing and like to good-naturedly rib friends (the friends who reciprocate). I've been called both a gentleman and an antagonist (for the ribbing). At the same time, I do not have a bad temper (very rarely get mad). If someone tries to start an argument with me, I don't hesitate to call them out respectfully. If they can't back up their points, I walk away.

Sorry for the lengthy post, but I really don't understand the behavior. I know that girls hate confrontation, but this seems extreme. I'm not a mindreader. Don't think my friends are experiencing this to the same degree.

 

[LandingWood]

I get something similar to this. Muscular physique also 5'11.
Chicks seem nervous around me and it makes me second guess myself.

 

[The LadyKiller]

Chicks seem nervous around me and it makes me second guess myself.

I feel the same way. You're doing things normally, but the reaction you get is abnormal. A couple of months ago, I did second-guess myself. For a few-week span, I toned down my edge and was being nicer to these girls (not "nice guy" behavior, but no ribbing and was less outgoing than usual). However, I got tired of the act and broke free. My mindset is, "I'm going to be me, handle it however you want."

 

[RangerMIke]

Women will seldom tell you no face to face. Ask them to play drinking games.... saying yes then passing out because she is too drunk is completely normal behavior for a woman. This happens for the same reason that they give you their numbers then screen your calls, or say they will go out with you then flake.... it's what they do. Best way to deal with this is just don't let it get to you.

Try not to pay too much attention to what they say... but do pay attention to what they do. The girl that was laughing at your pranks but later said this upset her likely thought it really was funny.... again normal female behavior.

 

[The LadyKiller]

Women will seldom tell you no face to face. Ask them to play drinking games.... saying yes then passing out because she is too drunk is completely normal behavior for a woman. This happens for the same reason that they give you their numbers then screen your calls, or say they will go out with you then flake.... it's what they do. Best way to deal with this is just don't let it get to you.

Try not to pay too much attention to what they say... but do pay attention to what they do. The girl that was laughing at your pranks but later said this upset her likely thought it really was funny.... again normal female behavior.

Completely agree that women are not direct. I guess my conflict is more about how these women are afraid to tell me the truth (as opposed to the indirectness we normally experience). I don't even remember the last time a woman who wasn't interested said "no" when I asked her out. I believe my last getting friend zoned was five years ago!