Conflicting Advice

[Bosshogg]

Situation...you`re sorta dating someone for 3-4 months(sex included)...you make plans with them...they dont get back to you for a week and email you back saying sorry blah blah blah...

From what I`ve read...

1/2 the post say:

-Women being flakey is perfectly normal, even more so when they like you....
-be patient
-dont let it bother you cause it shows insecurity


they other half say:

-it`s a sign of disrespect...don`t take that crap
-next her

So which is it fellows...

Confused DJ

thanks

 

[Skel]

depends on the excuse she gave. If she was laying the hospital with a broken neck I think its ok to let it go.

 

[Jariel]

I can only speak from my own experience, and I always find being cool and indifferent is the best solution to most problems with women. Several times in the past I've accused women of disrespecting me, told them off for flaking or ignoring me and every time has ended badly. What's worse, a few of those times I ended up finding out they had legitimate reasons and I'd overreacted, which made me look insecure and paranoid, and scared these girls off.

These days, if a girl flakes or disrespects me, I "punish" her by being distant, yet carefree. I wait for her to get back to me and if they bring it up I'll say something like "ok, no worries". If they ask to meet again I tell them "I'll let you know". They start to see that it's not a big deal to me and suspect they've blown their chance with me. They also know they must seize their second chance (if I give them one) so they won't do it again.

However, if a girl flaked on me or ignored my calls/texts, one thing I would not do is contact her. I wait for her to contact me, no matter how long it takes...and 9/10 they do and apologise too.

I strongly recommend the cool and carefree style when dealing with any hassle from women. It's served me very well.

 

[Tomatoes]

Jariel is right with "how to act". To answer your above question thow....READ ON!

The most important thing in this situation is......

Is she a flakey girl?

Has it always been the case where it takes her ages to get back to you?

Or just lately.

If its always been the case....Shes just disorganised and you will have to live with it. Neg her on it and she will improve....or follow Jariel's tip above

If she has just recently started doing it....Its the beginning of the end if you ask me. She will be using the typical women tactic of slowly flaking from you. Next her ass!

Question Answered.....Next :woo:

 

[flexion_]

In a casual relationship indifference is the way to go. In a LTR you have to hit the problem head-on.