"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

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Confliciting morals...

Restlefan

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Hey, so im new to the forum, this will be my first post.
Anyway, i'll lay out the part of my moral code where my problem comes from

I don't believe in premarital sex at all. (for reasons that would take way too long to explain) This girl who i was semi-interested in for a relationship has been texting me back and forth (she asked for my number on facebook). So, i spin her some cute line about making plans with her, and she agrees. We deliberate over what to do, and eventually make plans to see a movie. She says that she'll have to call her parents and get permission. She calls her dad, and then txts me, saying that she got the OK from him, but that he gave her a speech. i ask what about, and she says that they don't trust her because she had sex with her last boyfriend. This is on the day of the date itself.

At this point, i was almost ready to cancel, but my "gentlemanly code of ethics" told me i had to stay the course and show her a good time.
So she calls her mom, and she says that she can't go. Instead, she counters with an offer of us taking a walk around/through her addition (which is huge)

(an important addition is that both of us had told the other we found them physically attractive, but she told me first)

we get to walking, and eventually sit down on some swings and get to talking. Just joking around, blah blah, and eventually, i stand up, announcing that im going over to a different piece of equipment (we're both 17 btw) she follows, of course, and we get to talking there too. Then she stands up, walks over to the main "jungle gym"

long story shortened (marginally)
we end up making out, only for about 10mins, but then we walk back to her house holding hands the whole way. a couple of times, i pick her up, just messing around, mainly cuz she's a fairly light person and im in pretty good shape.

while walking back, we both tell the other that we don't want anything serious, and then go on to explain why. i leave for boarding school in less than a month, and it was after i told her that that she told me she didn't want anything serious.

what im wondering now, is: did i do anything wrong? when can i call/txt/her? how can i set this up so that i can make out the maximum number of times before i leave? (that's really the biggest question in my mind)

thanks in advance!!!

*edit*
the title of this post should have been "did i mess up?"
oops
 

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Sir Psycho Sexy

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....yikes


Start reading up articles in the dj bible. You can find the link at the bottom of this page.
 

Ice882

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sweet job keeping it casual. it takes a lot of resolve to keep it that way for almost 36 hours.
 
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