Confident Pursuit versus Nexting

[DanelMadr]

While reading some forums (only place they open up) about dating I realized some girls, usually the young ones and not so assertive ones need strong assurance they wont get dumped or lead on....sort of fear of rejection.

They sit there at home answering phone on every second occasion, decline dates without counter offer and all this because of fear and insecurity Not because they want ego inflation or that they are not interested. They say they really like the guy but need more assurance of his sincere interest. Its like guy afraid of approach if he doesnt get strong buying signals.

So, inviting her out on date now and then for longer periods of time (until you find someone better of course in the mean time) sounds like good thing to do.

I dont recommend showering them with attention and assuring them of your high interest so they dont need to worry. It will only inflate their ego and making you the desperate one.
Eventhough they think and say, when a guy would be really into them, he would be calling every day. I just dont believe it would work.

On the other hand there is a benefit of doubt. These girls seems too structured/complicated and it can be they are simply not that interested in the guy but feel miserable when he dont pursue.

So what do you think....pursue until ho says NO or Next the stupid cow?

Personally I dont give the big lie "I promise, I will never die" (Team America) and after 3 week hesitation from her side I eject, because I would feel humiliated to ask one more time (maximum of 5 shots).

Please dont answer in terms what would your imaginary alphamale alter ego or Brian Boitano do. Id like to hear some life stories not theories. Thanks

 

[Paradox]

To pursue or not to pursue. That is the question.

This is not a science here, not by any means. What makes a girl give you her number and then flake out? There are many factors. She changed her mind, she was drunk, she just wanted to get rid of you....ect

The basis for your decision to pursue will be her interest level. The higher her IL the better off you are. Does she return calls? Keep dates? That shows a high IL. Does she break dates? Flake on you? That shows low interest in you or your feelings.

Quick story. I've told this story here somewhere already. I met this swimsuit model at a party. Anyhow, I was pursuing this HB9 swimsuit model. At first her Il was very high but she wouldn't commit to a date. I called at regular intervals. After 2 months she agrees to go out. We had a good time. 1 month later we had another date. Another successful date but no kissing, no nothing. 6 more months of calling with no real IL. Finally I get another date. We go out and have fun. The date ended but no kiss close, no nothing. We had 1 more date which ended badly. I left her at the party that we went to.

I stopped calling and finally wrote her off. Then out of the blue she calls and asks me to come over. I go over and we end up in bed. She was the worst lay I ever had in my life. She was clean and everything but she was a dead fish in bed. She wasn't worth all the pursuit.

I had another girl who I pursued. I called and she didn't return my calls. When I saw her again I gave her a real railing for not returning my calls. From that point on everything was smooth sailing.

It's all about interest level, your self esteem, her self esteem, your willingness to play games, rule following....

It's not an exact science. Some women are loose and easy. Some are easy but play hard to get.

Keep in mind that some women put up an anti-slut-defense.

 

[Obsidian]

They sit there at home answering phone on every second occasion, decline dates without counter offer and all this because of fear and insecurity Not because they want ego inflation or that they are not interested.

this sounds completely ridiculous, and I'm pretty sure it's not true. Judge females by their actions. What the hell commitment could you possibly offer her without even going out with her first? If you seriously do know a woman like this, STAY AWAY FROM HER, because she's obviously f*cked up in the head.

I don't know what "experiences" (as opposed to theories) you could possibly be looking for, either. You want my successful experiences approaching girls who flake out and who don't give IOIs? How about zero?