Confident Persistence - will it work on a girl you've already gone out with

[coin]

It seems to me that confident persistence is something that a lot of people on this board, myself included, don't fully understand.

Suppose you've gone out with a girl once or twice, and after that she shows reduced interest in you. Is this a situation in which you should be confidently persistent? Or is this a situation to forget about and move on?

 

[squirrels]

Persistence isn't going to help if you're going to persist in giving her the same thing that made her less interested.

A real DJ doesn't sit there and ram his head against a brick wall. He either looks elsewhere for a door, or he gets a f'in jackhammer.

If you ever have to ASK whether it's worth your time to be persistent, it probably isn't. My advice would be to either change up your game, or just "NEXT" her. Are you pursuing any other girls right now? What do you do for fun in your life BESIDES women?

 

[coin]

I have plenty of other stuff going on. I've gone out with 4 other girls since the oneitis, but I just don't like any of them as much.

And by no means did I crash and burn with the oneitis. I asked her out twice and the first time I got a "maybe" and the other time I got a "not today" and I haven't spoken to or seen her since. I went so far as to erase all her contact info from my computer/cell.

I am going to assume that she is not completely turned off, I am just trying to figure out how to play it. If there is even a way.

 

[BGMan]

Originally posted by coin
I have plenty of other stuff going on. I've gone out with 4 other girls since the oneitis, but I just don't like any of them as much.

And by no means did I crash and burn with the oneitis. I asked her out twice and the first time I got a "maybe" and the other time I got a "not today" and I haven't spoken to or seen her since. I went so far as to erase all her contact info from my computer/cell.

I am going to assume that she is not completely turned off, I am just trying to figure out how to play it. If there is even a way.

Oh, man, I can relate TOTALLY! ROFLMAO! Ain't that the darndest?

Does she have YOUR contact info? If not, I rather doubt that you have a chance, but don't give up hope. In my case, I seem to be getting lucky, just by hanging back and keeping my cool.

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=33985

In the meantime, continue looking for other women. Even after she starts to date you, if that indeed happens.

BGMan