"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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AJTD

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Hey guys
I have not been on here in awhile but wanted to shout out some advice here. If you are having trouble talking with women or even approaching them then think about this. You have to have the mindset of you don't give a **** about what other people think. It is fear that is holding you back. It has been for me anyhow. Once you get a hold of that fear and say **** it then your confidence level will increase. I mean you only have one life to live. Live it to the fullest.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Crazy Asian

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that's easier said than done.

i prefer the fake it until you make it method.
 

Daddy The Pimp

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AJTD said:
I mean you only have one life to live. Live it to the fullest.
This was great sentence :D .

About approach i personally use and recomand 3 second rule . It doesnt give you much time to overanalyse things .

And if you want your Confidence to hit the top you need to approach as much as you can and when you make girls that you just met attracted to you , you will feel like you are GOD :D .
 

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I think phasing out concerns of what others think is a good first step, but IMO, it's only a partial solution.

I see these as two dialectical poles

Caring too Much <=======================> Not Caring at all

I don't think fixation at either pole is ideal. I *am* interested in other people and I *do* care about their experience and opinions.

However, I am *not concerned* with getting their approval nor will I *change* my values to conform to what others feel is correct.

There wlll always be this struggle of the opposing poles, it is not a simply on/off switch in my opnion.
 
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