"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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first please dont move this thread to the high school section, i dont do high school dating, i go for more mature girls rather than b1tches who want u to hold their hand on the way to class

my ex really fuked me over, i was the rebound, used played. blah, i had oneitis but i got over it myself, took me a year but i got over her. but it seems as i cant do the things i used to do before, walk up to any girl.. i can, and i been doing it lately but it doesnt feel right because it feels like i am holding back, i feel shy when im talking them.

and last night was a perfect situation, took a girl to a bush party. we got high drunk, (i kept it light) it was a good time.. then after a while i told her lets get out of here, we went back to our old Elementary school, in the parking lot.. in my car, ass down front up(hydraulics) and just chilling, i couldnt break the ice to make the first move.. she was like too far. i didnt have the confidence to move over and kiss her! pissed off. and she gave me soo man interest indications. such as "we gotta chill again real soon" said it like 3 times. then when i dropped her home, she made out with me.

through out the night i did ALOT of kino, alot. holding her hand feeling up her hips, huggin.. id leave to see other ppl then come back 10 min later and sneak up and just hold her hips. she loved it. but i just couldnt get passed that

this is not me. i was never like this before, im tryin to get it back. doing cold approaches but it seems like its not enough,
i guess thats what i get for havin oneitis for a year for a girl who ****ed me over.
i know im the prize i know i got nothing to lose but its just not connecting!
why should i be afraid if a 5'4 girl 120 lb when im like 200 lb 6 foot
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sounds like you need to relearn a little bit of confidence and letting loose again, because I think I remember you posting really good stuff. Cross over to the dark side (signature) :p
 

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Docs said:
Sounds like you need to relearn a little bit of confidence and letting loose again, because I think I remember you posting really good stuff. Cross over to the dark side (signature) :p
yeh man i was really high in the sky before, didnt give a fuk but now its like.. i fell hard and im gettin back up and tryin to run again but its not as easy as it sounds.
 

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Relax bro.

You're just getting back into the game after all.

Gonna take a bit of time before you shake the rust off but you will and sh!t man the b!tch made out with ya regardless.

You're doing well so far.
 

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KontrollerX said:
Relax bro.

You're just getting back into the game after all.

Gonna take a bit of time before you shake the rust off but you will and sh!t man the b!tch made out with ya regardless.

You're doing well so far.
i figured it would be that, im just not used to this kind of process.
imma call her over and bring her over my house. i dunno why but in my room it always made me feel much more comfortable to pull moves.. cuz i got all the sh1t here. like my grade 4 valentine cards(chicks love it for some reason) and other stuff.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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