"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm a newbie in this forums and i have a question.

Lately i've built up my confidence quite a bit with great help from this site and i've been easily able to talk to girls. there's this girl i met on the track team that i think i like, and we always exchange playful insults. today i approached her with a bunch of people (which i never do, i don't know what i was thinking) and i just froze. i did not know what to say. usually i would say something funny or at least interesting. a male friend then came up and started whispering to me, which they found it awkward (damn him for his bad timing) and they started whispering to each other also laughing.

so my question is.. what the heck happened?? did my self-esteem just go from the height of the mountains to the depths of the ocean??? (drop) in 2 seconds. umm if more info is needed to help anyone reply i'll supply, just ask
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Precursor said:
I'm a newbie in this forums and i have a question.

Lately i've built up my confidence quite a bit with great help from this site and i've been easily able to talk to girls. there's this girl i met on the track team that i think i like, and we always exchange playful insults. today i approached her with a bunch of people (which i never do, i don't know what i was thinking) and i just froze. i did not know what to say. usually i would say something funny or at least interesting. a male friend then came up and started whispering to me, which they found it awkward (damn him for his bad timing) and they started whispering to each other also laughing.

so my question is.. what the heck happened?? did my self-esteem just go from the height of the mountains to the depths of the ocean??? (drop) in 2 seconds. umm if more info is needed to help anyone reply i'll supply, just ask
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I think it's normal man.We all make mistakes. You just havent got enough self-confidence.I mean you have to FEEL that confidence,but not to learn it.
Practice more. You can escape from this situations only bu humour...if you take it serious the other will take it in that way too and they will laugh at you.
It's not that important to be cool,but calm in those situations.I am sure that will never happen again if you become really confident in yourself.

I will share my own experiense beacuse i had almost the same problem(i think i have it even now)If your mouth cant talk,your body can.A hug or a smile means sometimes much more than a hundred words. Just assess the situation
 
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