"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Confidence is critical for increased size & strength

Krueg

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Just wanted to share a article I found on one of Reg Park's beliefs that I find to be true.

T NATION | Reg Park Way To Serious Size And Strength

Rule 4: Confidence is critical for increased size and strength

According to Reg, an effective training program focuses on increasing confidence. You should feel strong, empowered, and ready to take on the world after each workout. If you feel weak and defeated, then you're doing something wrong.

Imagine having a job in which you progressively work harder each month to make the same amount of money. Most people would find this absurd, and change jobs. Working smart means making more money for the same amount of effort, or better yet, working less and making more.

Training is no different. Rather than going overboard and burning out, focus on the minimum training dose that'll produce the maximum result. You can always add more if necessary.

Reg also believed that training to failure too often is a big mistake. If you train to failure too often, and miss a lot of lifts, your confidence will plummet, and so will your strength and size. Gradual progression is the way to go rather than having the illusion that strength and size will come in leaps and bounds. Have a long-term approach and enjoy the process.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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100% agree.

Especially with:

Training is no different. Rather than going overboard and burning out, focus on the minimum training dose that'll produce the maximum result. You can always add more if necessary.

I've always had friends go to the gym with me, all pumped, always trying to go to failure and burn out, and half way through the week they quit working out for another month.

Obviously when you work out you should try to constantly beat your old weight, but there is a difference between progressing and just putting so much stress on yourself under the bar that you burn yourself out.
 

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ArcBound said:
100% agree.

Especially with:

Training is no different. Rather than going overboard and burning out, focus on the minimum training dose that'll produce the maximum result. You can always add more if necessary.

I've always had friends go to the gym with me, all pumped, always trying to go to failure and burn out, and half way through the week they quit working out for another month.

Obviously when you work out you should try to constantly beat your old weight, but there is a difference between progressing and just putting so much stress on yourself under the bar that you burn yourself out.
One can only go all out in that manner when on steroids. I agree completely.
 
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