"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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confidence is an emotion ?

carrot

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is confidence an emotion ?
reading up on all types of emotions

Fear Anxiety nervousness , worry
trying to understand much better about each one
any good book that talks about each emotion with examples

Thx
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Atom Smasher

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I would say confidence is a "knowing" that you are well-practiced and well-developed in any kind of endeavor, whether that is social skills or a physical skill.

I wouldn't consider it an emotion but rather a knowing, from which an emotion of satisfaction can flow.
 

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I would say that it is both an emotion and a mindset.

On somedays, I will wake up and feel incredibly confident, do cold daytime approaches, say and do the right things, etc...

Other times, I just don't have it for some reason no matter how I try to put myself in "state" or if I just had a great night the night before.
 

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I would say that confidence is a "state" which is a collection of emotions.

I would also say that most emotions, as well as states, are highly interdependent, and can be highly dependent on external variables.

You might be super confident that you could tie your shoes blindfolded, but not so confident that you could get a number from a playboy model.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Confidence is a lack of emotions, or maybe better to say a lack of "feelings," the removal of ego from a transaction, be it a handshake or climbing a rock, just as faith is a lack of belief. Emotionless knowing is confidence, unbelieving but knowing is faith.
 

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Thanks for all replys

I am doing a new role (sales) and getting nervous sometimes
even though having good service

Working on being not dependant on results and emotionless (hard for me)


dasein said:
Confidence is a lack of emotions, or maybe better to say a lack of "feelings," the removal of ego from a transaction, be it a handshake or climbing a rock, just as faith is a lack of belief. Emotionless knowing is confidence, unbelieving but knowing is faith.
 
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