"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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confidence inbalance happen to even the best DJS?

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hey guys just antoher quick question i find myself not being so confident any more and i usually go through this cycle where i will go up to any one and then sometimes not at all for girls... im just wondering if this happens to everyone out there or is it just me... Usually for me to get back to my gmae i wait for a r hot girl 8 or higher to look at me or something but now im back in my slump and it sucks
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I don't know about the best DJ's but I see my self as pretty confident most of the time.

When I haven't been looking after myself I can feel my confidence drop, i.e. lack of sleep, too much drinking, not eating right, too much/little exercise
 

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For the BEST men (this is a group so small that i can't think of anyone in the seduction community who belongs in it, as those who attain such heights usually leave this old "shell" behind), the concept of confidence doesn't exist. They just ARE. There is no fear, no doubt. There is air. There is sun. There is love. This takes time, but if you're persistent enough, one day you'll arrive. We ALL started at the bottom, and have ALL stumbled MANY times. But all it takes is persistence and time, then all is given to he who has justly earned it.
 
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thanks alot i just go thorugh dif. stages and just seein if other ppl go through that also
 

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Well... The problem with me.. I so fvcking confidence around hot girls.. but around ugly chicks im like a little shy school girl.. dont know why.. but i cant seem to able to talk and look them in their face...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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