Confidence: Good looking or not?

[TommiV]

Hey, Long time reader but I'm just fresh out of a relationship so you know... trying to get back on track again.

I know I have one major problem with my game though: I don't know if I'm ugly or good looking. I know, how stupid is that!?!

Its just... I dress well, I'v lost a lot of weight over the past few years to the point I now look slim but probably more muscular than skinny.(not that I was fat, just a kinda chubby kid). When I dress up for a night out I always think I look well in the mirror, as in clean, dity, good dress sense.

But then again, I presume everyone is the same when I say we are our own worse critic. I have this impression of myself as his kid with a chubby face that no-one likes. I mean I'm not a kid anymore, I haven't chiseled features but I don't have a fat face.

I know this sounds really stupid but my problem is even though I can approach and do this stuff, whenever I come up against the girls I'm REALLY attracted to, I just end up telling myself, nah, she's good-looking, she'd never like me. I know that goes against everrything we're trying to get across here but its just a real mental block. I'd love to know how other people percieve me, do they thnk I look good, bad or "ok". I hate this feeling of, "she won't go out wit me cos I'm not cute like her" and then the "oh ****, I AM looking good, why didn't I just do it".

Hmm. stupid huh?

 

[ethnomethodologist]

IBack in the day, when I used to get jealous... I had a friend who weighed 280 lbs. He was confident beyond belief, he was chubby, he'd kino girls with his belly, he'd joke about ANYTHING, the guy had seemingly zero fear.

He'd act AFC, like bring a girl a cookie, and the girl would get googly eyed at him. The guy had an HB9 girlfriend, and all the oneitis's I had at the time had huge crushes on him.

The guy could AMOG anybody. If the phone rang, it was for him, or he could answer their question. He worked long hours everyday. He had amazing driving skills from practicing out on the ice for hours on end with his friends back home. When he got angry, you know he deserved to be, and it was always for the right reasons, so you couldn't try to be alpha without looking stupid.

Since than he's lost some weight, people still joke about him behind his back. He really didn't care.

 

[Docs]

Ice racing is awesome.
Belly KINO. the next big thing! Hahahah! Your friend must of been quite the guy to hang out with, there's some good stuff there. I can see why he had the girls, he was so different, it was intriquing to the girls.

Nice.