Almost every female wants a guy with confidence. Which comes first Confidence or Success? Confidence is knowing what to do in a situation. Studying and picking up certaing ideas gave me confidence so that when a girl asked me what i did for a living or what kind of a car I drive, I knew how to respond. The more you know what girls are doing, the easier it makes it to respond and improvise. When you know whats going on, you're not clueless. Cuz clueless people dont have confidence, they have big egos.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Confidence Doesn't Just Come From Success
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
KarmaSutra
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A pretty simplistic equation:
Courage leads to Confidence which then leads to Success. Every single time.
I've been reading and implementing quite a bit of Jungian psychology / Morita therapy and, to some extent, the Dr. Paul MIND OS material. Which in combination with daily yoga and gym work has really helped to reshape my outlook on life and internal processes.
Courage leads to Confidence which then leads to Success. Every single time.
I've been reading and implementing quite a bit of Jungian psychology / Morita therapy and, to some extent, the Dr. Paul MIND OS material. Which in combination with daily yoga and gym work has really helped to reshape my outlook on life and internal processes.
chronic99uk
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You can trick yourself into confidence, or well just unlock the confidence you already have, its just about find the right key to the door.
Il explain from a real life situation i had not only a few days ago.
Im a confident bloke in real life, fine at doing presentations to lots of people, but going into a crowd of girls would just make me crawl inside myself.
I went out with some people who are afc's and im not, but because i had to keep up appreances, i just headed into a bunch of girls and just introduced myself, and had a nice chat, was doing this alnight, getting the afcs into the convos, to making me look even better. Was amazing night. I now am trying to just use this as a fuel, because if i can do it then, why cant i do it anytime.
If i have opened the floodgates and now dont have a physcological lock on my mental door, then wooo, sorted.
Find your confidence key!
Il explain from a real life situation i had not only a few days ago.
Im a confident bloke in real life, fine at doing presentations to lots of people, but going into a crowd of girls would just make me crawl inside myself.
I went out with some people who are afc's and im not, but because i had to keep up appreances, i just headed into a bunch of girls and just introduced myself, and had a nice chat, was doing this alnight, getting the afcs into the convos, to making me look even better. Was amazing night. I now am trying to just use this as a fuel, because if i can do it then, why cant i do it anytime.
If i have opened the floodgates and now dont have a physcological lock on my mental door, then wooo, sorted.
Find your confidence key!
CrunchyNut
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I find the best way is to do something which you are good at. I am a fairly good tennis player. I will play some tennis to get my confidence up. Do whatever makes you feel good about yourself. This will improve all of your social interactions, simply because you are happier with who you are, rather than asking "what is everyone thinking of me?"