Almost every female wants a guy with confidence. Which comes first Confidence or Success? Confidence is knowing what to do in a situation. Studying and picking up certaing ideas gave me confidence so that when a girl asked me what i did for a living or what kind of a car I drive, I knew how to respond. The more you know what girls are doing, the easier it makes it to respond and improvise. When you know whats going on, you're not clueless. Cuz clueless people dont have confidence, they have big egos.