Confidence and not putting all your eggs in one basket

[salsipuedes]

NO doubt about it, whats one of the quickest ways to gain a little much needed confidence, the awnser, get out there, bite the bullet, and get a ton of phone numbers, it doesnt matter if the woman are 8s or 10s heck even some 7s or 6s would do in the meantime to get that confidence up to decent levels. Just a few weeks ago i was diying for this woman i was dating, in my little AFC mind i was thinking, "i have to respect her" " i have to be honest with her" "shes the only one for me", and in the meantime she was ignoring me and on her way to giving me a one way bus ticket to friendland. So i took the advice of the DJ bible and decided i was going to do the opposite f what my brain was telling me to do, so i go out, and start asking for phone numbers, talking to woman, smiling at them, and getting burned by some and surprise!!! liked by others, so a few weeks later i have 2 women i am dating, 2 who i am going to go out in the coming days, and my life is busy and happy. This has given me a sense of peace and tranquility that i didnt have, i realize now that i dont need A woman, because theres too many of them outhere and I CAN PICK the one who is best for me.

Yes you do feel a little AFC guilt at the start, but after you get comfortable with it, you begin to understand what it feels to be a man, to be in charge, and its a feeling i wish all men in this world could feel.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket, i am not saying cheat on your woman, or be an *******, but its perfectly acceptable and honorable for us men to have fun and go out with many women, it will make you stronger, calm your nerves, and believe it or not, please the women in your life.

 

[ksoileau]

Awesome post.

 

[phloyd]

I agree. This is the best idea that I've learned from this site.

Good job on your turnaround as well

One thing I've found though is don't get discouraged because pursuing multiple women always comes in waves. They are either always flakey for a week or so and you don't have any dates or any thing going or you've got more than you can handle or you get two dates in one night etc.

I used to get down when nothing was going on but it always comes back around. I just stay positive now because I know things will be out of control in a good way soon.

And when things are going good I realize they will be slow again at some point so I just ride the wave as long as possible.

Anyway, good job man!

 

[Bonhomme]

Very good

Yes, one of the big keys is to play the field. One-itis surely regresses to full-blown AFC-ness if not stopped. Bump.

 

[RaWBLooD]

yes having fun is fun:woo:

 

[frivolousz21]

Don't put all your eggs in one basket, i am not saying cheat on your woman, or be an *******, but its perfectly acceptable and honorable for us men to have fun and go out with many women, it will make you stronger, calm your nerves, and believe it or not, please the women in your life.

sure....

hey honey, tonght im going out with some girls from my class...we are going to some bar/club and drinking..ill call you tomorrow.

im sure she will bite that bullet