Confidence and Aura of the look

[Diaoz]

Good day guys.

You see, it is often said and taught that a confidence would boost the way you look and carry yourself.
Now this is true, for many guys...I've seen it myself. They may look like shyt, but somehow emits this enchanting aura that brings girls and even guys to them.

However on the other hand, I'm sure we've all seen uber UGLY and FAT chicks who think they're the ABSOLUTE HOTTEST thing alive. And well, they really believe that right from their heart, they carry themselves with confidence but....

They're a HUGE turn-off!

So, does confidence only affect a man's appeal?

 

[I-am-someone]

Um... Yes.

Men look for submissive women,
Women look for dominant men.

Get the idea?

 

[Diaoz]

Possible reason...

However, confident guys attract other guys too! Not fags but just able to draw people to them.

 

[Jay-X]

i've been thinkin about this for the last months myself, but haven't found an answer yet

 

[Chief]

Part of it is

Men are more attracted to women based on physical appearances...so of course whether a fat chick had the attitude or not, the looks just ain't going to do it for ya.

Women are more attracted to men based on how you make them feel...so looks aren't as important to them as how your being confidant and making them feel good is.

Generally speaking of course...

 

[Diaoz]

Re: Part of it is

Originally posted by Chief
Men are more attracted to women based on physical appearances...so of course whether a fat chick had the attitude or not, the looks just ain't going to do it for ya.

Women are more attracted to men based on how you make them feel...so looks aren't as important to them as how your being confidant and making them feel good is.

Generally speaking of course...

True again, as similarly brought up by 'i-am-someone'. However the key is that ugly guys that just have the 'attitude' draws male friends to them as well. It's just something I'm thinking about. Thanks for all input though!

 

[eniktin]

"Men look for submissive women,
Women look for dominant men."

tell that to a feminist

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by eniktin
"Men look for submissive women,
Women look for dominant men."

tell that to a feminist

Feminazis aren't real women.

 

[Royal Elite]

When you come to this board, which person do begin to take advice from first, or say I want to be like that person: The guy that says i am ugly, and cant get laid to save my life, or the guy that says women dont scare me, I do me, and as a matter of fact heres how I got laid last night?
Now when you think about this, you dont know if this guy is telling the truth because you werent there, but the simple fact he projected that image attracts you to him. I'm into music, and in the music business or any thing dealing with fame the biggest rule is "IMAGE IS EVERYTHING!"

 

[Diaoz]

Originally posted by Royal Elite
When you come to this board, which person do begin to take advice from first, or say I want to be like that person: The guy that says i am ugly, and cant get laid to save my life, or the guy that says women dont scare me, I do me, and as a matter of fact heres how I got laid last night?
Now when you think about this, you dont know if this guy is telling the truth because you werent there, but the simple fact he projected that image attracts you to him. I'm into music, and in the music business or any thing dealing with fame the biggest rule is "IMAGE IS EVERYTHING!"

True, I agree.

So how does this explain why ugly Males with 'Image' and 'Attitude' can be cool while ugle Females with 'Image' and 'Attitude' isn't?

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by Diaoz
True, I agree.

So how does this explain why ugly Males with 'Image' and 'Attitude' can be cool while ugle Females with 'Image' and 'Attitude' isn't?

I can bet you anything that a ugly girl with "image and attitude" gets more dates then a ugly girl without it.

 

[Alpine]

As a side issue, confidence leads to action.

It's not just some chick sees a guy acting all confident and jumps on him, a confident bloke goes over and start talking, and is equally able to tell her to get off if she starts testing him.

 

[wildchild]

Hello people i will try to explain the point im trying to make even though i have had an appointment with mr guinness tonight and im fairly drunk. Ive started a new job deliverying stuff on top of my normal everyday full time job ( i love money so i want to make as much as possible) and at my new delivery job theres loadsa girls that hang out at the place i work. I have been purposly avoiding them / ignoring them when they talk to me because my current girlfriend lives in that area and i dont want to get involved with anyone else just incase it ruins my relationship with her. The point im making is - i dont talk to these girls - im an average looking guy and these girls think im "so hot" (they have told my girlfriends sister this) the reason i feel they think im "so hot" is because the way i carry my self - i walk more confidently, i make eye contact and dont break it and ive been going to the gym for a while. The point im trying to make is u can attract girls without even saying a word or without having supermodel brad pitt looks just become more confident its the key to alot of things in life... sorry if this made no sense im fairly drunk

 

[Alpine]

So what you're saying is, drink more Guiness

 

[Skweints]

It's impossible to say how confidence causes you to attract women to you. Maybe it's a telepathic deal, women can FEEL your confidence. Maybe it's a pheremone that your body puts off, and they can smell it. Maybe it's your actions that show it. How well you use your words.

Whatever it is, we all know that there is SOMETHING that causes women to react to it... and I fully believe it is a two way street... Men ARE attracted to confident women. I know I am... and I would much rather be with a cute chick with confidence than a HOT chick with low self-esteem.

To say that a man would be attracted to an ugly chick with confidence, well, we all know men base their choices on apperance... so whether or not a girl has confidence, if she's ugly... she's still ugly.

All we, as men, need to know is that Confidence + Appearence... or Presentation, has a HUGE effect in picking up women. As long as we know how to obtain confidence, then who cares about the rest!!!

 

[Chief]

Allright I just have to interject my thoughts one more time before I go slap some paint...........

Have you ever thought to yourself that maybe your attracted to confident women because it's something your looking for in yourself..maybe more of it.

Confidence comes with experience and living through a multitude of different situations. By going through many different experiences you gain confidence in your self that you can handle anything that comes your way. New experiences tend to kill confidence because fear comes into play....BUT...Once you've been through the same thing a few times and you know how to handle it better each time through learning then you become more confident.

Another source of confidence comes from self respect, and you increase self respect by DOING what you think to be the right thing in any given situation.

GET OUT THERE AND DO IT!!! whatever it is..overcome your fear..Yuo might crash and burn..but DO it AGAIN and AGAIN and it will get better ,easier, and so will YOU.

Chief out, signing off...later

 

[SELF-MASTERY]

A 30 yr old women told me tonight that women dont want men that they have to build up. She was talking about how her stepfather is an AFC. She described him as a very jealous man, who can't handle her mother saying hi to ANY man. Her mother has to constantly stroke his ego.

Confidence is truly an aura, you have it or not. Puffing your chest out and walking funny is not confidence, its a ploy, its peacocking. If you have self-confidence you don't worry about all the BS this game will throw at you. You see pu**y, you approach pu**y, you have something to say, you say it. I think the most important thing in the pick up game, is courage. You have to get out there and make a fool out of self, get rejection, scratch some battle wounds, and heal into a real man.