"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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condoms?

rocco

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how often do people really use condoms? i have a guess that people who have one night stands, and fuc* buddies dont actually use condoms very often in fact.

when im in the moment of sex i forget about putting on a condom, butonce in awhile i see on tv, about some person that got HIV, it makes me worry a bit. need advice on people and condom use. thanks in advance.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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rocco

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yeah i know that people on here that want to seem responsible, or "say the right thing", will say to use a condom. im just saying realistically, how many people actually use condoms for when they have casual sex? i'm thinking not very often.
 

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Before I started dating my gf, I was banging a few random girls occasionally, and MAYBE I used a condom every other time.

NOT GOOD. I ended up getting a girl PREGNANT. Luckily she got an abortion, but that was not a good experience by any means.

Plus, you're right, you DON'T know what they have.

The thing for me is that I HATE condoms. They make my erection go down and make the pleasure so much less. That's why I never liked to use them, even the "ultra thin" ones.
 

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Before I started dating my gf, I was banging a few random girls occasionally, and MAYBE I used a condom every other time.

NOT GOOD. I ended up getting a girl PREGNANT. Luckily she got an abortion, but that was not a good experience by any means.

Plus, you're right, you DON'T know what they have.

The thing for me is that I HATE condoms. They make my erection go down and make the pleasure so much less. That's why I never liked to use them, even the "ultra thin" ones.
 

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The ultra thin ones work fine for me, but yea best with no rubber feels better ..................... I've been lucky not to catch anything or knock a girl up.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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donjuanjovi

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The only time I havn't worn a condom has been with long term girlfriends that have been on the pill. I really don't feel like getting herpes or having a donjuanjovi jr. running around.

Durex sensi-thin condoms break easily, don't use them.
 

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donjuanjovi, agree all the way.

If she's a LTR gf and she doesn't get on the pill or depo shot, then dump her.

She'll say, "BUT IT MAKES ME FAT", then say, "I know you like it better without a condom too, and birth control might make you put on a few pounds, but a BABY is going to make you REALLY FAT."
 

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I agree with jovi

The only time I dont use a condom is if im in a serious relationship. Too much scary **** out there
 

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ALWAYS USE A CONDOM! Its not worth the risk and the worry! Your life is far too important than a one night stand! STD is on the rise! You dont know who has it. Its not worth it.

Use well known brand name condoms like Trojan. Be safe brothers!
 

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I always use a condom, even though my long term girlfriend is on the pill and STD free. No form of contraception is 100% guaranteed and I really don't want any accidental pregnancies. Plus using a condom allows me to last much longer!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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