"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Perry

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ive tried searching for this on sosouave but didnt find anything. so my girlfriend and i have tried to have sex 3 times now. the first time i couldnt get hard at all. the second and third time i was more comfortable with her and got hard, but whenever i put the condom on and tried to get inside her, my d1ck got stuck trying to enter, and i lost my erection. i dont get hard again until i take the condom off. shes pretty wet too, and tight.

i was using the generic trojans, my d1ck is 6.5 inches. i was thinking of getting a bigger condom so it wont cut off circulation. ive only wanked it one time since she started touching me down there a week and a half ago. I cant think of anymore details that would be important. ANY advice would be appreciated. thanks a lot guys.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Condoms work terribly for me, I heard the next ecstacy line might work better, and will be trying them.

STOP JERKING OFF though, for 2 weeks and see how it goes
 

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It doesn't really matter how long you are because condoms can unroll a bit.

Though if you are thicker than average (5 inches around), a normal condom may cut circulation.
 

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5 inches around?! that sounds insane. so do you guys think it is the condom, or do you think it is a little anxiety still? I always lose it right when i try to get inside her because my d1ck just gets stuck. thanks for the replies.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I use Durex Avanti or Lifestyle Skyn. No latex for me, they are uncomfortable and less durable. I suggest you try a non-latex condom.
 

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Perry said:
5 inches around?! that sounds insane. so do you guys think it is the condom, or do you think it is a little anxiety still? I always lose it right when i try to get inside her because my d1ck just gets stuck. thanks for the replies.
That's really not that insane. At 6.5 inches chances are you're probably bigger than 5 in girth. I'm 7 and 7 and had VERY similar problems to what you're experiencing. Turned out regular condoms just didn't fit. I could get them on but they were super tight....ie they looked like an overfilled water balloon lol. Try some Trojan Magnums, you'll find them alot more comfortable and you won't break them every 5 seconds (another problem I had).

But I think anxiety may be a bit of a problem too.

Are you trying to shove the whole thing in there in one motion? You tend to have to slowly work it in there until she opens up a bit.
 
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Perry said:
ive tried searching for this on sosouave but didnt find anything. so my girlfriend and i have tried to have sex 3 times now. the first time i couldnt get hard at all. the second and third time i was more comfortable with her and got hard, but whenever i put the condom on and tried to get inside her, my d1ck got stuck trying to enter, and i lost my erection. i dont get hard again until i take the condom off. shes pretty wet too, and tight.

i was using the generic trojans, my d1ck is 6.5 inches. i was thinking of getting a bigger condom so it wont cut off circulation. ive only wanked it one time since she started touching me down there a week and a half ago. I cant think of anymore details that would be important. ANY advice would be appreciated. thanks a lot guys.

#1 - The problem is all in your head, you need to relax........also try jerking off before you see her thinking about fvcking her, but don't cvm (save that part for her when you see her)

#2 - Maybe she just isn't your type, and your attempts to force sexual attraction aren't working.
 

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I second Backbreaker on the Okomoto Crowns. Closest you can get to rawdogging.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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BlakeW5 said:
That's really not that insane. At 6.5 inches chances are you're probably bigger than 5 in girth. I'm 7 and 7 and had VERY similar problems to what you're experiencing. Turned out regular condoms just didn't fit. I could get them on but they were super tight....ie they looked like an overfilled water balloon lol. Try some Trojan Magnums, you'll find them alot more comfortable and you won't break them every 5 seconds (another problem I had).

But I think anxiety may be a bit of a problem too.

Are you trying to shove the whole thing in there in one motion? You tend to have to slowly work it in there until she opens up a bit.
Interesting, interesting. I just got a whole butt load of crown condoms so i'll see how that goes. props to backbreaker for that. The problem is I get too soft to put it in her if I wait too long. I dont stay fully erect during the whole process, and i always fail at the same spot.
 

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If it is anxiety then dont pressure yourself. She is more than likely just as anxious as you are and is probably tensing up which could be why you cant get it in regardless of how wet she is.
relax, and whatever happens have fun!
 

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i just fvked her finally. thanks for all the replies.
 

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Congrats. ;) Was she a virgin? It could be that she was unintentionally clutching her pelvics so you couldn't enter. When a girl is nervous she can do that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thanks Guoy. She wasnt a virgin. It was just very difficult to stay hard when i thought about putting on the condom as well as when the condom was on. I had to basically dry hump her to stay hard.
 
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