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Master Don Juan
So once again i was playing fifa 2004, this time againy my brother. It is debatable weather or not he is better then me.
Right near the start he fouls me, i get a free kick but have a decent player injured. It really anoyed me as he didnt even get a card for it and i expresed my dislike to it.
in a short space of time i scored 3 goals in that half. My borther just sat there angrly and in disbeleif. He put the presure on in the match. He scored a goal towards the end of the first half. Instead of getting anoyed over him scoring, i decided, no more anger and i congrtualted him on his goal. This really anoyed him, he thought i was taking the piss and said that if he was equalising right now i would not be congratualting him.
I still felt rather calm instead of worked up over his goal, because i had taken a deep breath and said well done instead of complaining.
In the second half he manged to follow it up with another goal. shore i did not like this, but i pointed out how it was actuly quite a good goal scored from the corner. I was staying really calm still as if i was thrashing him, when in reality i was only just winning.
If i, like i normal would have, made a fuss about it saying its not fair, then i would have dug myself a deeper whole, and let more goals in but i stayed relax and manged to follow up on my 3 goals with 2 more to finish the match at 5-2 to me.
Of course my brother complained like i normal would have, every step of the way.
If i relax when somthing against my best intrest happens then i stay calm If i get worked up about it and lose the match i would be really anoyed.
When i am like this, If i loose against some one else i am no more anoyed then if i lose to the computer. (which does not annoy me so much) If you are like this it shows you are anoyed because you are trying to prove somthing to yourself. But if you get more anoyed from losing to some one else you are trying to prove something to someone else, which you should not aim to do.
But the main point of this post it to show you that you can consiously control your mind. Given the same scenario you can either get worked up or stay calm. Same scenario but you just stay in control rather then getting worked up.
If you can use this to block out anger you must be able to use it to block out insecurity. (and i know you can from experince) So when people tell you just be confident there is truth in what they are saying.
Tell yourself you are confident, but what has even more effect is tackling the negative. Telling yourself you are not insecure as well as confident.
Your mind is very strong, you can condition it to think anything by telling yourself to do so. The best way is to block out the opposite feeling.
You know there is no way that a girl does not like you.
You know that there is no way you are lower down then the girl is, and that you have not put her on the pederstal.
You can control the whole mental aspect of being a donjuan (which is a large part) because of the power of your mind.
Lets get a bit extreme for a second, terorists that blow them selves up do it because they are convinced they should die for their cause.
Well in a simular way you can convince youself you are confident. I am sure if people can be convinced to kill themselves to kill others you can be convinced that you are the prize.
Right near the start he fouls me, i get a free kick but have a decent player injured. It really anoyed me as he didnt even get a card for it and i expresed my dislike to it.
in a short space of time i scored 3 goals in that half. My borther just sat there angrly and in disbeleif. He put the presure on in the match. He scored a goal towards the end of the first half. Instead of getting anoyed over him scoring, i decided, no more anger and i congrtualted him on his goal. This really anoyed him, he thought i was taking the piss and said that if he was equalising right now i would not be congratualting him.
I still felt rather calm instead of worked up over his goal, because i had taken a deep breath and said well done instead of complaining.
In the second half he manged to follow it up with another goal. shore i did not like this, but i pointed out how it was actuly quite a good goal scored from the corner. I was staying really calm still as if i was thrashing him, when in reality i was only just winning.
If i, like i normal would have, made a fuss about it saying its not fair, then i would have dug myself a deeper whole, and let more goals in but i stayed relax and manged to follow up on my 3 goals with 2 more to finish the match at 5-2 to me.
Of course my brother complained like i normal would have, every step of the way.
If i relax when somthing against my best intrest happens then i stay calm If i get worked up about it and lose the match i would be really anoyed.
When i am like this, If i loose against some one else i am no more anoyed then if i lose to the computer. (which does not annoy me so much) If you are like this it shows you are anoyed because you are trying to prove somthing to yourself. But if you get more anoyed from losing to some one else you are trying to prove something to someone else, which you should not aim to do.
But the main point of this post it to show you that you can consiously control your mind. Given the same scenario you can either get worked up or stay calm. Same scenario but you just stay in control rather then getting worked up.
If you can use this to block out anger you must be able to use it to block out insecurity. (and i know you can from experince) So when people tell you just be confident there is truth in what they are saying.
Tell yourself you are confident, but what has even more effect is tackling the negative. Telling yourself you are not insecure as well as confident.
Your mind is very strong, you can condition it to think anything by telling yourself to do so. The best way is to block out the opposite feeling.
You know there is no way that a girl does not like you.
You know that there is no way you are lower down then the girl is, and that you have not put her on the pederstal.
You can control the whole mental aspect of being a donjuan (which is a large part) because of the power of your mind.
Lets get a bit extreme for a second, terorists that blow them selves up do it because they are convinced they should die for their cause.
Well in a simular way you can convince youself you are confident. I am sure if people can be convinced to kill themselves to kill others you can be convinced that you are the prize.