"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Compound (Squats, Deadlifts, etc,) Help

SmoothTalker

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Hello DJ's, I've been working out for about two years now, but though I did free weights and stayed away from machines for the most part, most of my exercises were isolation. I've gotten results but not nearly what I am after, so I have decided to switch things up and focus on what is supposed to be the best exercises, compound movements.

Can anybody post a site or maybe recommend a book that would help me get the perfect form for these types of exercises? Or perhaps explain them yourself, in detail.

Also, a related question, when I'm squatting, it appears one side is stronger, in that, my hips tend to stick out to one side, (right). But even stranger I find, If I correct my hips, my legs begin leaning in that direction, looking like this even if my upper body is perfectly straight:
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Now I can't imagine this imbalance being good for the back, among other things, so does anybody know what's causing this and how I could fix it?

Thanks in advance, this forum really helps get one on track to feeling and looking good.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by SmoothTalker
Hello DJ's, I've been working out for about two years now, but though I did free weights and stayed away from machines for the most part, most of my exercises were isolation. I've gotten results but not nearly what I am after, so I have decided to switch things up and focus on what is supposed to be the best exercises, compound movements.

Can anybody post a site or maybe recommend a book that would help me get the perfect form for these types of exercises? Or perhaps explain them yourself, in detail.

Also, a related question, when I'm squatting, it appears one side is stronger, in that, my hips tend to stick out to one side, (right). But even stranger I find, If I correct my hips, my legs begin leaning in that direction, looking like this even if my upper body is perfectly straight:
_
\ \
.\ \
..\ \

Now I can't imagine this imbalance being good for the back, among other things, so does anybody know what's causing this and how I could fix it?

Thanks in advance, this forum really helps get one on track to feeling and looking good.
Lower the weight till you build the muscles, i used to have a problem my trainer called "the elvis" my knees would shake when i squated :crackup:
 

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Hey, perhaps your legs are not equally long, for many people the legs differ a couple of cm.


Squats:

Put the bar on your back and hold a pretty narrow grip so you press your shoulder blades together. But not more than which is comfortable. MAKE SURE YOU ALIGN YOUR HANDS SO THE VRIST DOESN'T BEND BACKWARDS.

Step out with the bar and look yourself in the eyes in the mirror. Stand about shoulder width with feet (I like to bend my feet just a little ******d, it prevents my knees from turning inside when I lift). Inhale about 60% of your lungs and tighten the midsection while and start to lower the bar.

Make sure your knees are facing the same angle as your feet to prevent injuries. If your knees bob inwards then either lower the weight or focus hard on not bending them inwards.

When you hit paralell or full squat, return to standing position. Make sure you use your legs and not your back. Start to exhale when you are almost up and inhale while you go down again.

Important is to keep your back arched, easiest way is just to look yourself in the mirror at all times.


Deadlifts:

Grasp bar at desired distance. Use mixed grip, you can lift more this way. Unless you do olympic lifts.

Sit down as much so your upper legs are about paralell with the floor. Look yourself in the eyes. Do not shrug up your shoulders before the lift. The bar should be rested between the tip of your toes and the base of your toes.

Inhale and tighten the midsection and lift. Legs and backs should work together, not dominate each other. Keep the bar pretty close to the body during the entire lift.

When you are up, exhale and inhale and lower the bar, not too fast. You should have control over it. Look yourself in the eyes or higher during the lift.
 

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In both cases: try to become a human forklift. Up and down, up and down.. with all the precision of an android and the power of the internal muscular beast that's dying to come out.

:)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Originally posted by Lifeforce
Hey, perhaps your legs are not equally long, for many people the legs differ a couple of cm.


Squats:
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Few squat tips: If your knees bend inward you have weak hamstrings in comparison to your quads. Make sure when you push you push out with your heels as well, and imagine yourself pushing through the floor rather then lifting the weight. Keep your back tight and almost try to touch your shoulder blades. Depending on how deep you go you might have to move your feet. I go for the full squat so my legs can't be more than shoulder width appart.
 

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Originally posted by Lifeforce
haha.. no semag, but I ran across this little gem:

It's a very impressive 500x2 squat! Made by a dude who weigh like 150 lbs. Awesome lift, check it out!

http://www.cobraguardcover.com/steve500x2.avi
That guy is everywhere lmao, I wonder if he is serious or not. :crackup: :crackup:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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