"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Compliments about my body but imagine if I actually trained? (motivation question)

lonewolf17

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So I've noticed for a while that a lot of people ask, "hey, do you work out?!" type thing and some just oggle me silently... It's sort of odd though because I actually don't work out at all..in fact, I lead a disgusting, idle lifestyle with one of the worst diets you've probably ever seen.

Now here is the thing. If I DID work out, consistantly, with a plan, I imagine I would be JACKED. If I'm at this stage from being a slob, I could do wonders with some effort.

Now I have a bowflex machine, but for some reason I go down to it and I just can't seem to get anything done...I may get one session done, but then I don't continue with it and its months until I use it again.

What should I do to really MOTIVATE myself to go down there 3 times a week and not let my potential go to waste?

Also, what sort of workout plan would you guys recommend for someone who is already fairly well built? I'm not skinny so I don't need to 'start from scratch', I need to more or less 'build on' what I already have. Any recommendations?

Thanks mates!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Quagmire911

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If you've never worked out before you need to start from the beginning regardless of physical development.

You need to look into free weights/kettlebells. Bowflexes don't seem to be much more than a gimmick.

Quagmire
 

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For BBing you have to really want it deep down, a burning desire. That's what it takes to get great.

MM
 

Flyer

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motivation comes from within. a desire for something.

we can't give you that.
 

lonewolf17

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Damn lol...I think I need to find something that would require me to body build, like rock climbing. That way I have a passion to fuel the desire to be stronger. Or I could just convince myself that a really great body will make me more attractive, that's always good motivation I guess.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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int3l

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or you could tell yourself to stop being a lazy fcking slob and just go do it knowing you're doing something great for yourself in the long run. Also, that blowflex thing probably won't get you anywhere...
 

lonewolf17

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int3l said:
or you could tell yourself to stop being a lazy fcking slob and just go do it knowing you're doing something great for yourself in the long run. Also, that blowflex thing probably won't get you anywhere...
And a lazy fcking slob I am...I did clean up my room the other day at least. But perhapes you are all right. I think I just need to DO IT and get my act together. Unfortunate about the bowflex, though...that puts a damper on things.
 

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lonewolf17 said:
So I've noticed for a while that a lot of people ask, "hey, do you work out?!" type thing and some just oggle me silently... It's sort of odd though because I actually don't work out at all..in fact, I lead a disgusting, idle lifestyle with one of the worst diets you've probably ever seen.

Now here is the thing. If I DID work out, consistantly, with a plan, I imagine I would be JACKED. If I'm at this stage from being a slob, I could do wonders with some effort.

Now I have a bowflex machine, but for some reason I go down to it and I just can't seem to get anything done...I may get one session done, but then I don't continue with it and its months until I use it again.

What should I do to really MOTIVATE myself to go down there 3 times a week and not let my potential go to waste?

Also, what sort of workout plan would you guys recommend for someone who is already fairly well built? I'm not skinny so I don't need to 'start from scratch', I need to more or less 'build on' what I already have. Any recommendations?

Thanks mates!
How old are you?

When I was in my teens, I had a very slender build. Often I used to get mistaken for an athlete/swimmer when in reality i was the laziest slob on earth with zero energy for physical exercise

Now I'm 25, and I have gained a lot of fat. People keep telling me to lose weight :D If you don't want this to happen to you eventually, you should take up some form of exercise
 

Obsidian

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Read the Book of Pook. He will inspire you to improve yourself.

And maybe get a friend who will start going to the gym with you.
 

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Good Luck with your training.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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