The Dalton
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If my memory is not shot, then this is my first post here so Hey to everyone.
Anyway, my girlfriend and I have been going out for about 10 months now. We are both 17. We started doing sexual things at about 1 month. A lot of fingering and handjobs for about a month until she finally let me eat her out(she thought it would be weird.. she had only given a hj before she met me) and then bjs came. This was all during the summer as I started dating her right before school ended. Things were great and I would make her *** around 3 to 10 times a day a good 4 times a week. I loved it and so did she. About five months we tried sex(for 5 minutes in her bedroom while her parents were home.. she just wanted to know what it felt like) In about the span of a month after that we had sex 3 more times.. Each only maybe 10 mins in her room(we never really have any time alone to have sex... bjs and stuff like that are much easier to stop if someone is coming) anyway, the last time was about 4 months ago.. which we almost got caught so that might be a good reason for the stop. The sex is not the real problem...for the next 4 months up there is a decline of sexual action happening. I usually "tuck her in" every night. We go to her bedroom.. lay there for about 30 mins until she falls asleep. Her parents let us do that and that is when we give bjs/eat out and stuff. But as I said.. there has been less and less of it. For about 2 weeks straight we did nothing and that is when I finally brought it up because I was contemplating breaking up with her. I told her that I missed the way it used to be and that it made me feel like I was doing something wrong(which it did). When I asked her if she was falling out of love with me and if she wasn't interested in me anymore she started crying and swearing that that wasn't it. After i kept pressuring her to give me a real reason for the stop(instead of the i don't know bs she was feeding me for the past 15 mins) she said that she doesn't want it to get boring.. that she didn't want to do it as much.. maybe once a week. OK fine, I can accept that answer. Two weeks past and it got better. Then back to nothing really. Now it's more like once every 2 weeks.. I brought it up again and she couldn't really give me an answer..she ended up saying something like "In 9th and 10th grade sex was all I could think about it and when I fell in love with you I finally had a chance to do all that stuff.. I think I just got it out of my system." Me = "wtf kind of answer is that... How do you expect me to go from doing things every night to once every two weeks... I love you and you are the best gf I've ever had but I just don't know if I can deal with it" That was about 2 weeks ago..Things are a little better but not too much.
I have two explanations for this. The main thing I think it is is school. She takes medicine daily which makes her fall asleep really easy(If she lays still for 5 mins when she is tired then she's out and she usually goes to bed for one or two hours after coming home from school). During the summer it was great. But when school started getting harder that's when the downturn started I think. We used to spend the time in her room doing stuff but lately she just wants to cuddle and go to sleep.. stating that she is tired. Knowing her, I think that is the main reason.. She is just too tired to think about it
Another reason could be that she feels guilty. I don't think this is the cause but she acts like it some times. Who knows what her friends or someone may have said to her.
I don't think it's another guy because she has never ever even given me a reason to be jealous and I know she still loves me because she wants me to hold her hug her kiss her hold her hand scratch her back things like that all the time.
I assume most of you guys will just tell me to break up with her but I've already spent close to 10 months with her and other than that the relationship is perfect. She is beautiful and I get along with her great so I don't want to break up with her over that.
Anyways, what do you guys think the reason is? Or what should I do about it. I've tried initiating stuff like that more and it is helping some but I'm not sure if that can fix it completely.
I appreciate any help that anyone wants to give, thanks for taking the time to read all that.
Anyway, my girlfriend and I have been going out for about 10 months now. We are both 17. We started doing sexual things at about 1 month. A lot of fingering and handjobs for about a month until she finally let me eat her out(she thought it would be weird.. she had only given a hj before she met me) and then bjs came. This was all during the summer as I started dating her right before school ended. Things were great and I would make her *** around 3 to 10 times a day a good 4 times a week. I loved it and so did she. About five months we tried sex(for 5 minutes in her bedroom while her parents were home.. she just wanted to know what it felt like) In about the span of a month after that we had sex 3 more times.. Each only maybe 10 mins in her room(we never really have any time alone to have sex... bjs and stuff like that are much easier to stop if someone is coming) anyway, the last time was about 4 months ago.. which we almost got caught so that might be a good reason for the stop. The sex is not the real problem...for the next 4 months up there is a decline of sexual action happening. I usually "tuck her in" every night. We go to her bedroom.. lay there for about 30 mins until she falls asleep. Her parents let us do that and that is when we give bjs/eat out and stuff. But as I said.. there has been less and less of it. For about 2 weeks straight we did nothing and that is when I finally brought it up because I was contemplating breaking up with her. I told her that I missed the way it used to be and that it made me feel like I was doing something wrong(which it did). When I asked her if she was falling out of love with me and if she wasn't interested in me anymore she started crying and swearing that that wasn't it. After i kept pressuring her to give me a real reason for the stop(instead of the i don't know bs she was feeding me for the past 15 mins) she said that she doesn't want it to get boring.. that she didn't want to do it as much.. maybe once a week. OK fine, I can accept that answer. Two weeks past and it got better. Then back to nothing really. Now it's more like once every 2 weeks.. I brought it up again and she couldn't really give me an answer..she ended up saying something like "In 9th and 10th grade sex was all I could think about it and when I fell in love with you I finally had a chance to do all that stuff.. I think I just got it out of my system." Me = "wtf kind of answer is that... How do you expect me to go from doing things every night to once every two weeks... I love you and you are the best gf I've ever had but I just don't know if I can deal with it" That was about 2 weeks ago..Things are a little better but not too much.
I have two explanations for this. The main thing I think it is is school. She takes medicine daily which makes her fall asleep really easy(If she lays still for 5 mins when she is tired then she's out and she usually goes to bed for one or two hours after coming home from school). During the summer it was great. But when school started getting harder that's when the downturn started I think. We used to spend the time in her room doing stuff but lately she just wants to cuddle and go to sleep.. stating that she is tired. Knowing her, I think that is the main reason.. She is just too tired to think about it
Another reason could be that she feels guilty. I don't think this is the cause but she acts like it some times. Who knows what her friends or someone may have said to her.
I don't think it's another guy because she has never ever even given me a reason to be jealous and I know she still loves me because she wants me to hold her hug her kiss her hold her hand scratch her back things like that all the time.
I assume most of you guys will just tell me to break up with her but I've already spent close to 10 months with her and other than that the relationship is perfect. She is beautiful and I get along with her great so I don't want to break up with her over that.
Anyways, what do you guys think the reason is? Or what should I do about it. I've tried initiating stuff like that more and it is helping some but I'm not sure if that can fix it completely.
I appreciate any help that anyone wants to give, thanks for taking the time to read all that.
