Complicated girl

[PedroBauch]

Okay guys I am new at this forum , Hey everyone .. I have this problem and i could really use some advice from guys that are more experienced than me. English is also not my native language so please excuse any grammatical mistakes that you may see in this text . Okay so I am a 16 years old guy and I get oneitis pretty easily ( which I guess is pretty normal at this age ). Month ago I texted this girl on facebook . She is a friend of a friend and I thought she was really hot so I decided to do something even if it was just through facebook. She straight up from the beginning was almost brutally honest , she wrote me a list of things she likes , does etc and in the list she also wrote that she is a virgin . I was pretty weirded out by that but i found it strangely cool . So after we texted with eachother like two more times . I invited her out , barely a week after we got to „know“ eachother. She of course said yes and we went out on our first „date“ i guess . Me as a really inexperienced guy ( Never kissed a girl sober , never was in a relationship ) I was pretty nervous . Thinking about it , how it might go , how it might end up etc etc . I was teasing her , we were physical ( pushing eachother playfully etc ) . At the end of the first „date“ i hugged hur . Pretty lame i know , but its the most physical I have ever been with a girl while sober . I was pretty nervous even to hug her . I honestly felt proud about myself lol . So after when we were texting she said something along the lines . I was wondering how I will act when we go out , if I will spill my heart out like with every other guy or I will play it cool . Me as the idiot I am . I asked her what she meant by that . She then told me about this guy who graduaded our school and with whom she started texting a year ago and fell in love with him and how he does not like her back the same way, but he keeps being friends with her .. After she has confessed her love to him twice. ( basically just playing her I think ). SHe also said that she does not want to be in a relationship right now. (She just confessed to him again like a month ago) From that moment I kind of knew I was ****ed .. So I told her that I dont want to be just her friend ( after knowing her for not even a month lol ) and that she should figure her stuff out and then text me or not . I honestly did not expect to hear from her ever again . She then texted me not even four days later . Asking if she has not called me when she was drunk . We started texting again . Flirting a lot , lots of sexual stuff . She was telling me how horny she is , we were like hypothetically in a fun way talking about sex . I also got a naughty pic out of her . After she sent me that pic she said that his does not really change anything between us . We then went out for the second time . I was even less physical this time then the one before . And basically after this time it all went to **** ( I failed to escalate ) . She then started being more *****y in our interactions . Started seeing me as this desperate guy that wants to be in a relationship with her . Then also because of my stupid curiosity . she told me how she kissed with another guy . She basically said herself that she does not like telling me this stuff , but my curiosity got the best off me . ( i kind of took it as a challenge if I could get the information out of her ). Which I think made her lose even more respect for me. I decided to ask her out for a third „date“ . I decided this one will be the final one . ( Will try to go for the kiss ( first kiss ever) So I asked her out , but she told me that this week she cant . Again my curiosity got the best of me and I discovered that she going out on a concert with the guy she „loves“ . And that she does not want to go out with me because she is just so excited about it. I was like ok cool . After the concert thing happened . I asked her how it went . She then again did not want to tell me . I just asked if she is now dating with him . She said not . So I was like cool where is the problem then ? She asked what do i want of her . I told her that I like her but that I am not in love with her or atleast yet . She then told me .. You are doing all this just because you like me ? I then again asked her out (kind of like a test ) and she said she cant , but that probably sometimes during the holidays . The last time I was texting with her I asked her about this party that she is going to .. I asked if I am invited ( playfully ) . She said no , because I could not make any friends there ( She can be pretty cold and *****y , but its meant in a good way ). I then discovered that her friends dont like me , because they think I am too arrogant . Anyway that is basically all of it . I honestly dont know what to make of this . I dont believe that there is really still any chance to have anything with this girl ( sex, relationship whatever). But i kind of developed oneitis for this girl ( even though now that I am typing all this i am realizing how stupid it is) . So i would like to get advice from you more experienced guys . What do you make of this and what would you do and sorry for how long the text is 

 

[devilkingx2]

I think you should keep doing what you're doing, I see nothing wrong here

ESPECIALLY not the fact that you're after a girl whose heart already belongs to another who gives signals so mixed you might as well call them reese's peanut butter signals, no problems here at all

you should also not worry about how incredibly beta you sound.

/sarcasm

 

[PedroBauch]

I dont really care that she is infatuated with the other guy . I see it as a challenge to prove that I am better then him . Anyway I agree with you , she is giving lots of mixed signals and is pretty much acting like a bi... . I set up another meet up with her . I will try to kiss her , if that does not work out I will move on . I also do not understand why do you have to be so negative lol .. I sincerely asked for help and you instead of actually trying to provide some constructive advice are just acting like an ass.

 

[devilkingx2]

I dont really care that she is infatuated with the other guy . I see it as a challenge to prove that I am better then him .

you're trying to buy a car that's already been sold, paid for and is about 10 seconds from being driven off the lot

Anyway I agree with you , she is giving lots of mixed signals and is pretty much acting like a bi... .

mixed signals aren't supposed to mean try harder, maybe that's what she wants you to do, but it's not in your best interest.

I set up another meet up with her . I will try to kiss her , if that does not work out I will move on .

smart I guess, give it ONE more chance(atleast one more than I'd have given it) before you hit the road (jack)

I also do not understand why do you have to be so negative lol .. I sincerely asked for help and you instead of actually trying to provide some constructive advice are just acting like an ass.

in a month or two when you re-read the wall of text you posted, it will embarass you.

you'll know how I felt when I read it the first time,

what you should do is obvious, this is a terrible idea/disaster, in a million parallel universes this only works out in like 200 of them.