So this will be my first post on this forum, and the story goes like this:
I have known this girl for some time, and I have recently gotten feelings for her. At least I think so
It's too early on to tell actually, I do like her you know but I just don't know much. You guys are probably thinking wtf is the problem?
Just some short background information on the situation:
*About a year ago i probably had my shot with this chick, but I didn't take it. Why you might ask yourself? Because I had other preferences back then, you might say I have matured
*I already know that she likes me (several people have confirmed), but she seems to be afraid to admit it to me, strange
*She has recently got to know my close friends a bit too good for my liking (DANGER ALERT)
So here it goes: I told some of my friends that I was going in for the "kill" on NYE. All was well and fine, and I hosted a party were all those involved was invited (not a good idea..) People got drunk and all that, and someone spilled the beans to her that I actually liked her now.
This is when the problems begun. I do not know how much i like her, therefore I do not know what to do. I know her pretty well now and she has had some problems in the past with former bf’s that has made me belive she does not deserve a relationship with me if I don’t know what my true intentions are(I aren’t a true ******* either, even though my past may tell otherwise)
Also I feel there is a lot of pressure if something was too go wrong. She is as I stated before a person who is somewhat in my close circle of friends.
This was even something I thought about before I even planned to go to the next step. And of course my worst fears became reality. People who didn’t really have anything to do with sadly got involved. Too bad one of those actually is one of my friends which I have known THE longest.
Well you guys may think why didn't you just go and speak to her directly that night? Things happened and I didn't get to see her nor my friends the rest of the night and even at that point I didn't even know that she knew.
So here I am, not actually knowing what to do with this girl. I have not spoken to her since NYE and that friend of mine who spilled the beans called me up the other day and told me that she had called him and asked him why I hadn't called her. This was something that felt a bit strange for me because usually she calls me.
She "doesn't" actually know why I split on NYE so for me it seems a bit strange that she hasn't contacted me yet.
This kind of a situation is also new for me because I usually have the upper hand and now I don’t. Suddenly my cards have been dealt and I’m not in charge of the situation anymore.
So far I have not contacted her either, because I think she should call me and I also need some time to digest the entire situation which I now am in.
So I don’t actually know of any questions which I could ask you guys for, but if anyone could give me some advice on how you handled a similar situation that would be great! Or what you think I should do…
I have somewhat decided what to do, but I would be interesting to see your views nonetheless.
I have known this girl for some time, and I have recently gotten feelings for her. At least I think so
It's too early on to tell actually, I do like her you know but I just don't know much. You guys are probably thinking wtf is the problem?Just some short background information on the situation:
*About a year ago i probably had my shot with this chick, but I didn't take it. Why you might ask yourself? Because I had other preferences back then, you might say I have matured
*I already know that she likes me (several people have confirmed), but she seems to be afraid to admit it to me, strange
*She has recently got to know my close friends a bit too good for my liking (DANGER ALERT)
So here it goes: I told some of my friends that I was going in for the "kill" on NYE. All was well and fine, and I hosted a party were all those involved was invited (not a good idea..) People got drunk and all that, and someone spilled the beans to her that I actually liked her now.
This is when the problems begun. I do not know how much i like her, therefore I do not know what to do. I know her pretty well now and she has had some problems in the past with former bf’s that has made me belive she does not deserve a relationship with me if I don’t know what my true intentions are(I aren’t a true ******* either, even though my past may tell otherwise
) Also I feel there is a lot of pressure if something was too go wrong. She is as I stated before a person who is somewhat in my close circle of friends.
This was even something I thought about before I even planned to go to the next step. And of course my worst fears became reality. People who didn’t really have anything to do with sadly got involved. Too bad one of those actually is one of my friends which I have known THE longest.
Well you guys may think why didn't you just go and speak to her directly that night? Things happened and I didn't get to see her nor my friends the rest of the night and even at that point I didn't even know that she knew.
So here I am, not actually knowing what to do with this girl. I have not spoken to her since NYE and that friend of mine who spilled the beans called me up the other day and told me that she had called him and asked him why I hadn't called her. This was something that felt a bit strange for me because usually she calls me.
She "doesn't" actually know why I split on NYE so for me it seems a bit strange that she hasn't contacted me yet.
This kind of a situation is also new for me because I usually have the upper hand and now I don’t. Suddenly my cards have been dealt and I’m not in charge of the situation anymore.
So far I have not contacted her either, because I think she should call me and I also need some time to digest the entire situation which I now am in.
So I don’t actually know of any questions which I could ask you guys for, but if anyone could give me some advice on how you handled a similar situation that would be great! Or what you think I should do…
I have somewhat decided what to do, but I would be interesting to see your views nonetheless.