completely desperate and confused, need ****ing help before i commit suicide.

[Finlay]

dont kow what the **** to do, have a 7month old daughter,whos mother really doesnt give a ****, have to get up about 630 am to get up with her to help her on her way for her mother who looks after her whistlt i study.

parents help me no end but im still in college and need to get some qualifications so i can make a some kind of life for myself as well as working a part time job in a bar,

trying to keep on top of everything so i dot fall under and trying to jkeep my friends and occasionally go out and socialise, have no confidence whatsoever anymore and just trying to find away out of it all dont really feel aybody can help me much, and cant sleep, drink too much and smoke too much and and concentrate on anything whatsovever.

just really cant cope anymore!

And all this at 18 years old!!??&?£%^?$%?

what is one supposedto do?

 

[gruby]

dude, it's too late now, but **** you never heard of abortion?

 

[evolvingnerd]

do'nt even think of suicide
you have no right to leave your daughter with a retard b!tch of a woman like that
it's now on your shoulders
you have to start taking responsibilty for yourself and your child

 

[Microphone Fiend]

if you are thinking about suicide, SoSuave isn't the place for you. Seek professional help where you can discuss a solution and all parties have the possibilites of benefitting. I understand that the situation can be hard (an understatement) but commtiting suicide? What about your daughter? Are you really that selfish? If the mother is as bad as you claim there will be no future without you there

 

[HHloser2]

Dont even think about suicide, Especially if you have a 7 month old child. Seek pro help man.

 

[ScrewIt]

dude..you havent even finished college yet, why the f#ck didnt you use a rubber?!?

 

[X_DonTrini_X]

If you seek help, I'll seek help as well....

cause that I need too.

 

[LuvMyArmyMan]

ScrewIt----Condom's aren't 100% effective. I thought you'd learn that FIRST in sex ed.

Anyways, for the young man posting, seek professional help. Suicide isn't the answer. You do need help, and you dont want to take the cheap and selfish way out.

Good luck.

 

[DrSoSuave]

Let this be a shining example why having sex isn't what it's all cracked up to be.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Sorry to hear about your predictament - but do as I say - get a DNA test done to make sure it is your baby!!! Then write back!!

See the DNA results before you think about suicide!

 

[Juan_Man]

Please, don't do it. Get help fast! Talk to someone who cares about you. Call a hotline. I know what it's like to feel like everything is hopeless. But you have to believe me. These feelings will pass. Stay strong and find someone who will listen to you.

 

[Wyldfire]

Finlay, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, wiser and a better person.

Suicide destroys the people who love you and who you love. If totally f*cks up children beyond repair. You're feeling low now, like there's no hope. Wait this rough time out and things will get better...they always do. You've got people doing their best to support you...do NOT let them down and leave them feeling like they failed you. Pull yourself together and plug on through. As long as you don't quit you haven't failed. Remember that. You ONLY fail when you give up the fight and quit. That baby NEEDS you. Your family NEEDS you.

Call a crisis hotline and talk to someone. There are many, many resources for support out there that you aren't even aware of to help people in situations like this. Make the call and get some people advocating for support services for you. That's what they are there for.

And above ALL else...remember that the feeling of despair WILL pass...just give it a little time. You can make it through...as long as you do NOT quit.

 

[dietzcoi]

If you cannot support the child give it up for adoption, there are plenty of people who can and will....

Oh, let me guess, the stupid ho you knocked up won't give the kid away...

You are screwed. Welcome to the club. Get some counseling and get rid of the mother, somehow (legally).

Dietzcoi

 

[MIKED777]

become a ****ing man yuou whining *****.



you had sex , you had the child now take care of your child. get a ****ing job, if you have to and quit school. dig ditches whatever it takes .


have some freaking honor , your going to kill yourself and leave your child alone , how selfish.


get a job, go to school at night.


dont ***** to me like some moaning *****

 

[Finlay]

a little extreme.

I have no intention of killing myself, that was one of those things, i just started worrying and panicking for a bit after a few drinks.

I am going to get my **** together, agreed i need help, but in what form does that come?

Its like im not sure who i am anymore at times, so im gunna see sombody about it.

 

[cave dweller]

job........

Hey,

Put the college on the back burner (attend night school).

You and the babies mother both get real jobs and get some cash coming in.

Also, seek professional help.

cave dweller

 

[MetalFortress]

Quit drinking and quit smoking, and use the money you would have spent on that, to take care of the kid.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Finlay

And all this at 18 years old!!??&?£%^?$%?

what is one supposedto do?

Grow up.

A LOT sooner than you expected to.

You're NOT going to have the same kind of social time that your friends did. That's just the way it's gonna be. Sure you'll be able to go out and let loose every ONCE in a while, but to expect to be able to party it up like your buddies are is unrealistic in your situation.

No, it's not "fair". Life isn't "fair". You do what you have to do, though. You can't go around whining about it...you made the choice to put your wee-wee inside a girl, so you have to accept this possibility. Right now, the most important thing in your life is your kid and your education.

At least you have people to help you out. There are people much more "fvcked" than you.

You can still lead a "full" life. You'll just have to put more effort forth than most of us.

And I agree with the guy who was talking about quitting smoking and drinking. You'll reclaim a lot of your lifetime and, more importantly, MONEY if you quit now.

 

[Good_ol_boy]

If 1000's of single mothers can do it whan the fathers abandon them, surely, you can too!!

 

[Feskaren]

Screw your friends and partying man... they will just sit around playing "i still havent found what im looking for" on a sour guitar anyway.... you already got it.... just build up your life now man... thats the most important thing. never give up, never stop trying, b strong for your kid and your *****.... By the way dumpt the ***** and go out and get yourself a new mother for the kid... if thats your plan you came to the right place for help... just use your spare time to search this site for tips and stuff and post stuff here if you want feedback... gl man...