"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Competitive nature

squirrels

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What do you do in your life that's competitive for you?

I find that I have a real competitive streak in me that is kind of going to waste. I mean, I've been taking up a lot of "extreme" sports...rock climbing, motorcycle riding, that kind of stuff, but never at a "competitive" level.

I mean, at 25, there are no high-school or college sports I can participate in to get my fix. I remember even after college, a bunch of us used to get together on the weekends and play Ultimate Frisbee and we really got into that. But lately it just seems like everything I do, I'm pushing myself but I never really get a chance to test myself against the rest of the universe.

Even when I used to play video games...like the nights I went head to head with my friend in Madden, or playing Socom III all night, or even just getting out to shoot pool, it gave me an outlet. We rarely sparred in my martial arts class, but that too gave me an outlet, especially when there were other people of my caliber out there.

What do you guys do that's competitive? How do you scratch that itch?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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MrS

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I box.
And I'm in the army, so there's some competitiveness of being the best/loudest/best looking company.
 

SELF-MASTERY

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Here are some things that I'm interested in:
Kali
Kendo
Judo
Aikido
Archery
Shooting Guns
Golf
Paintball

Stealing business ideas
 

Helter Skelter

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Tennis mostly

but also..ping pong, pool, Bumper pool, golf, white water rafting or just about any sport I love to play when I get the chance.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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